Kissing Tips for Guys

There's nothing that says 'I love you' more than a kiss. The first of the rules for guys I'm going to give is that, you need to be sincere when you kiss the one you love. Because if you're not, and you just want to get her into bed, the girl will be able to tell. A kiss is like an entrance test. If you clear it, you go through. If you don't, you'll have to try again. But I'll warn you, there may not be too many girls willing to give you the choice of repeating this test of romance. So you better be sincere in your first attempt!

French Kissing Tips

Most guys view the prospect of a first kiss with much trepidation. Lets face it, we do get nervous. It's a funny feeling, isn't it? It's like when a soccer player makes his debut. You want to do it, but you're scared whether you'll do well or not. One bad game and all the good work you've done over the years, will be down the drain.

But is it that hard? No. After all, it's just a kiss. An essential part of any relationship. What is tough, is picking the right time to do it. People who've kissed before will not find it too tough to identify the right time.

Tip #1: Sincerity
I'm going to harp about this point because I know how important it is to be genuine. The girl you're dating may use the kiss as a lie detector. You've ever seen one of the episodes on TV shows where the girl suddenly says to the guy, "kiss me"? Well she does it for a reason. She wants to know where the relationship is going. And if the lie detector says your lying, you're going out the window. So kiss her, only if you're very sure that you love her.

Tip #2: Timing
Now, the TV world can be surreal and not everyone gets the offer of a kiss on a platter. The timing of the kiss should be perfect. Most men make a mess of it by rushing into a kiss because they feel obligated too because 'it's been a few dates now'. A girl has her time-table and you need to respect that. One of the best tests to see if the girl is ready is, take short steps closer to her and see how she reacts. Simple things like touching her hand, or accidentally coming close to her face will help you asses, if she's ready for it. If she's uncomfortable with these gestures, try again later. If she smiles gently at the touch, then maybe she's ready.

Tip #3: When's the Best Time?
People say that the best time to kiss is after a date or a dinner. Is it really? I wonder... Everyone knows that a bad breath will ruin the first kiss, so it really depends on what you eat... And you can't really take a mouthwash on your date! A risky proposition overall. The best time for a kiss is when the two of you are together, alone. It could be anywhere. But it should be dark and lonely enough to protect her modesty. A good place in my opinion is a slightly private coffee shop. There is no one there and you're sitting quite close to each other. Just before you kiss her, look around to see if there is no one looking in on your rather private moment. It may also not be a good idea to kiss her inside your house as she may think you're taking advantage of her.

Tip #4: Set it Up
Simple obligatory prelude to a kiss. Set it up. Make sure that the setting is perfect and comfortable for both. DO NOT RUSH. Sweet talk a bit, maybe even sing a love song. Tell her you really like her and that she keeps you very happy. Touch her hand or her shoulder. These signs serve a dual purpose. Firstly, it gives her a warning that there may be a kiss in the offing and if she doesn't want it, she'll set up her defense and you'll know. Secondly, it sweetens her up a bit.

Tip #5: How to Kiss
There's no need to critically break up and analyze a kiss. It is laughably simple. Approach, open mouth, feather her lips, proper posture and hand positioning, enjoyment. But there are some things you need to know which you need to avoid. Here's a small list of common mistakes

• Hands
  A lot of guys put their hands all wrong. Some guys tend to get carried away a bit and go for the whole package, grabbing the butt, caressing legs with theirs. STOP! Things should move step-by-step. Place the hands on the face, neck, back of the head or around her waist.
• Power
  Things I hear are so ridiculous. "He kissed me so hard..." Why on earth would you do that? What makes guys go into a kiss so hard? But that is a common complaint. It reveals a slightly dominating style which most girls might not want to see. You shouldn't JAB your tongue into her mouth. You may have seen Antonio Banderas do that, but you're not Antonio Banderas.
• Haste
  Wait for it. Don't go all the way. Give the girl a chance to back out of it. Hold your position for a second. Notice her expressions. If her eyes are wide open in shock, move out. If she has closed her eyes, do it. If she hasn't backed out, then you go for it. If she does, well too bad for you, but at least you didn't make a fool of yourself.

Tip #6: Save Face
One question that remained unanswered most of the time is that if she does back out, what do you do to not feel stupid? Well, there isn't much you can do but smile. If you notice that her eyes are wide in shock, then just do something cheeky like pull her nose or ears or something. Or better, pretend as if you are taking something off her face.

Keep these tips in mind to make your first kiss memorable for both of you!