The KEY Question You Ask and MUST have Answered even though you probably don't know you are asking it

What's the KEY to surviving an affair and eventually moving beyond it with a sense of relief and increasing joy?

Well, when the agony and betrayal of the affair envelops you and soaks into every cell of your body, mind and spirit, there is one question that you ask. You ask it over and over again.

And, you are probably not aware that you are asking it. It resides just below the surface of your thoughts. But, believe me it's there. You want it answered.

I was coaching someone recently and she "got it." We touched on the core of this question. There was silence. And then muffled tears. They were tears of relief, not sadness, agony or resentment. Her breathing slowed. She reached down and realized this was the question. She received the answer - if just for that moment.

Don't muddle in the affair. I've heard, counseled and seen countless people unwilling to shake the memories, the images, the rage and sense of helplessness.

A cauldron of anger lies just below the surface and is easily ignited. On edge, unwilling to give and welcome. Reluctant to EVER trust themselves to another person again. Their life of quiet desperation goes on and on and on...

They avoided, ignored, never faced the question and therefore received no answer, no relief, no joy.

You see, I know what the question is. It's not because I have a doctorate, am smarter, wiser or a guru. I walked blindly for years. And then I walked through the valley. The question kept emerging. I would push it away until it no longer would tolerate my blindness.

And, then I got it. Partially at first and then exponentially the fog was lifted.

This is not an easy valley to walk through, but it's much easier than muddling for the rest of your life.

I've coached and read testimonials from literally hundreds on my sites who "got it." And their "getting it" became stronger and stronger, accumulating more and more positive power over time.

I'm giving more and more thought to this question and how to serve you better in "getting it."

Really "getting it" takes time. I would say anywhere from 3-18 months for someone bumping into the wrenching agony of an affair.

About the author:
Dr. Huizenga, the Infidelity Coach, offers infidelity help and relationship advice for coping with extramarital affairs and marital infidelity at: Break Free-From-the-Affair.com and Infidelity-help.com. Get articles and free downloads on emotional infidelity, coping with infidelity, the cheating spouse, signs of an affair, surviving infidelity and more.