Is your Partner Marriage Material?

We want different things from our partners at different times of our lives. As teenagers, physical attraction usually sums up the relationship, which is why adults love to say ‘what do teens know of love!’ At that age, chemistry is perhaps the only thing that matters. Later on, as we grow older, women tend to take an interest in men of status and sensibility. They view men as prospective life partners and not as interesting and fun dates.

So what makes a man marriage material? What I want in my guy may not exactly match your idea of an ideal partner. Let Bizymoms offer you some relationship advice.

What are his qualities? Is his personality as engaging as his looks? Is he a kind, caring person, someone who believes in giving as well as taking? Is he loyal and sincere? These are the personality traits you’d want in your husband, so check if your man lives up to them. You can’t have it all, but in general you can determine whether a man has a good heart and that will be enough judgment. Don’t try to poke and prod him in an effort to learn all his good and bad qualities, because that’s not practical. All of us have weaknesses and some appear later in life.

One thing no woman wants is a philandering husband. And yet, some women fall for unfaithful partners, time and time again. Why does this happen? Even if not presented with any proof, many women instinctively know when their partners are cheating on them. It may be a guilty look or a detached mood, but whatever it is, such behavior should not be brushed off. Women give their partners a second chance thinking (her maternal instinct to the fore) that she can turn him into a ‘better man’. The sad truth is that a player has a hard time growing out of his habit. So never marry a man thinking you’ll change him. If he can’t commit to your relationship, how can you be sure he’ll commit to anything else?

Financial security is a plus when it comes to marriage. We don’t want to disappoint the romantics out there and we are not saying that your partner should be rich. Financial stability is not the same thing as having lots of money. Some guys have all the money in the world but can’t manage their wealth. They can go bankrupt within a few years. So what’s more important is whether your man can keep the money he earns and save. It secures your future together and gives your children the start they need in life.

Work ethic is another important aspect of the total male package. If he likes his job and works hard to climb the ladder, you are in luck. Complacent men lack the drive to succeed in their chosen career. Work ethic also applies to house work. Does your man turn up his nose at taking out the garbage or doing the dishes? Does he have the old fashioned notion that housework is women’s work? Most women go to work now so if you are left with all the housework at the end of a busy day, you’ll end up bitter and very tired.

One way you can really get to know about your partner is by observing his interactions and relationships with others, especially his family members and friends who know him well. When we fall in love, we are usually blinded by our own perceptions that we don’t bother to step out of the glow. If he treats others with respect, you can assume he’d do the same to you. By paying attention to how others’ feel about your man, you will know if your praise is deserved.

Finally, maturity plays a big role in marriage. Let’s assume you are going out with a kind, sincere, loving guy who has a great career. It still doesn’t mean that he’s going to be a great husband. If his idea of a good life is for both of you to plop down on the couch and watch a baseball game every night, your marriage won’t work. Your fun loving guy may adore you but shy away from the idea of having kids. Only a mature man can handle the lifelong commitment of marriage and raising children. You don’t want a playmate; you want a man who will take care of you and be a good father to your kids. By thinking on these lines, you won’t fail in your quest of discovering Mr. Right for Marriage!

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