I Want My Ex Boyfriend Back - What's My First Move?

So you're sitting at home, upset and depressed, and finally decided: I want my ex boyfriend back. Well, good for you. Knowing what you want is the first step, but now the real work begins.

The first thing to realize: it doesn't matter how your break up went down. Whether you parted ways amicably, or your relationship ended in a horrendous fight... in either situation, there's always going to be a way to get back your ex boyfriend. Somewhere out there is a magical path of correct moves, choice words, and perfect actions you can make, that will get your ex to want you again. But just as a path does exist that leads back into his arms, there are ten thousand paths that don't.

What's my first move, you might ask? Taking a huge step backward. Doesn't sound very proactive, does it? But in fact, withdrawing from the situation and taking a good honest look at things is actually one of the best things you can do. And right after your boyfriend breaks up with you? It's the only move you'll want to make, because any other move will result in failure.

Common sense tells you to fight the break up, but in this case common sense is steering you wrong. It's a natural reaction to resist your boyfriend's decision to end things, and every fiber of your being will be screaming out to stop him. You'll promise that things will be different. You'll swear to change for the better. You'll tell him anything and everything he wants to hear, or at least, what you think he wants to hear. In reality however, your boyfriend wants to be left alone for a while.

Heard that one before? Okay, fine. But here's the one thing most people don't tell you: he doesn't want to be left alone forever.

Just as he expects you to resist the break up, your exboyfriend also expects you to chase after him. It's part of his own human nature to want to feel desired. Knowing you miss and need him will help feed his ego, and men love having their egos fed. On top of this, your boyfriend also underestimates how much he'll miss you after he breaks things off. That is, of course, if you'll let him.

"I want my ex boyfriend back... so I'm going to call him, email him, text-message him, and let him know how much I really love him".

Bad moves, all of them. Your ex can't miss you if you're always around. He can't realize what life will be like without you until you've finally gone. For this reason, you can't hang around. You need to break contact with your ex boyfriend and give him all the space he needs and then some. In fact, you should be trying to give your exboyfriend too much space. Give him so much space that he eventually drowns in it. The silence of your ex boyfriend's phone NOT ringing should echo against the emptiness of his email inbox as you don't call him, write him, or stay in touch with him in any way.

If you want your ex back, the first move in any break up is to withdraw. This is the absolute last thing he expects, which is why this tactic works extremely effectively. The more silent you keep, the greater his curiosity. The less he knows about you, the more he wants to know. Your goal should be to make your ex crazy with NOT knowing where you are... what you're doing... and who you're with. His confidence in the break up will be shattered by the fact that you haven't come chasing after him - not even a little bit. He'll wonder if you really loved and needed him as much as he though you did, and even might start wondering if he's the one who needed you more.

From here, your ex will call you. If he doesn't, there are some foolproof methods you can use to get him to make that call. Once back in touch with your ex, you'll start the slow process of reconnecting again - but this time on YOUR terms.

Learning how to win back an ex boyfriend is a skill, just like anything else in life. The more you know about the intricacies of it, the better off you'll be. And if your broken relationship really means something to you? You're going to want to be an expert at what you're doing.

Sitting around thinking I want my ex boyfriend back just isn't enough. To win back your ex, you need a step by step plan of action. Once you've got all your moves mapped out, you'll have the blueprint for success. You'll be prepared for whatever happens next - even the unexpected - and that will give you every advantage.

There are 8 Individual Steps that will Get Back Your Ex Boyfriend, so find out what they are! The sooner you get started on your opening moves, the better your chances of fixing your break up.