How to Overcome Jealousy in Relationships
Jealousy, it's just another human emotion as strong and destroying as love! Overcoming jealousy in relationships is a major problem one might have to go through. Why do we get jealous? I am sure we ask this question to ourselves many-a-times, but there is no answer for it.
As I mentioned earlier, jealousy is a feeling which makes you feel extremely unhappy. It is a very disgusting experience in itself. We all go through jealousy at some point in our life and I am sure you know how it feels. It's terrible. Jealousy is always associated with romantic relationships as in love, but many people often get jealous cause they can't see good in others. Jealousy of others' success and fame is indigestible to people; and they end up getting jealous, may be intentionally or unintentionally. Going through this phase of "jealousy" can give you bouts of aggression and depression along with insecurity and fear, but dealing with jealousy and overcoming it is what you can do best to get out of it.
Getting jealous is something, most people, don't do intentionally, but just happens to them by fluke. Obviously, there are people who are just too bad to think better for others, but not to pay heed to them is the best way to avoid them. Honestly, jealousy is a feeling from "within" which does not have any origin. Science relates it to the increased levels of hormone oxytocin. There are many causes for jealousy which we might not realize also, but they are the actual reasons for this painful emotion.
Lack of Self-Confidence and Poor Self Image: If you do not believe in yourself, you will end up as a loser for sure. Self-confidence can achieve you your goal in life and accepting others success will help you lead a peaceful life. Negativity about yourself won't do any good to you neither under estimating yourself.
Fear: If you are afraid of losing someone or being alone or not achieving something, can lead you to jealousy.
Insecurity: This is the most important reason for jealousy. If you are insecure about anything or most importantly a person, jealousy is going to take over your mind.
Possessiveness: If you are too much possessive for your partner, then surely you will end up being jealous. You will straight away lose him/her and will be left with nothing, absolutely.
We often hear of jealousy in long romantic relationships or jealousy in long distance relationships. You might not do it intentionally, but it might just happen because you love him/her too much! Not your fault but you might destroy yourself by doing so. You might just get very possessive about your partner when you see him/her getting comfortable with other guys or girls. If he/she tries to flirt (for the fun sake of it) with other guys/gals, you won't like it at all and you will feel that you have lost him/her. I am sure you can relate it, but you need not worry cause there are ways by which you can deal with it. There are cases of extreme jealousy in relationships as well, which might take a toll on you, but what you need to do is control yourself and be calm.
Dealing with Jealousy
Trust Him/Her: If you are having a long distance relationship, then trust him/her totally. Even if you come to know about his/her new friends and colleagues, just relax and accept it. It's a fact that people take each other for granted, when in a relationship, but you should always trust your man/woman. Give him/her, his/her own space and freedom. If he/she loves you, they will never cheat on you.
Be Honest: Make sure you talk to your partner regarding your feelings or misunderstandings about him/her. If you are getting into jealousy, tell him/her frankly. I am sure s/he will understand and make you feel better.
Talk: Any misunderstandings, just solve them at that moment. Forget about your ego and understand that you love each other and you want to live together. Don't argue and fight over others'.
Spend Time Together: By doing so, you will realize each others importance and always try to see good things in your relationship. Don't crib about things which do not exist instead, enjoy yourself and converse about your future plans and stuff. By doing so, topics like jealousy won't come into picture at all.
Surprise Each Other: Send random gifts or "I love you" messages to each other so he/she feels good especially after a long tiring day. Care for each other and understand each other. Your half the battle will be won. And lastly, remember healthy relationships last long.
You all must have understood that overcoming jealousy in relationships doesn't sound easy, yes, but you have to get over it, cause that's the only option you have. The best way to get over jealousy is being happy with yourself. Be confident, trust yourself, accept things as they are and think positive. Anger management can definitely help you. Don't think too much about others' achievements; think that they are where they are supposed to be and you, where you. I am sure you will get over jealousy. In cases of extreme jealousy, you can go in for medication therapy which will help you overcome jealousy.
You have found out. It's tough to implement but you can always try. You have to understand that jealousy is a mind game and you have to solve it on your own. Getting over jealousy in relationships is tough and you can overcome it only if you have a strong will power. Try being happy and everything will fall in place. All the best!
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