How to Make Your Boyfriend Want You Back

Winning back your boyfriend's love shouldn't be hard, but making your ex want you back is the tricky part. Before you can begin, you'll need to examine the relationship to find out where it went wrong. Do this objectively, and be as honest as possible. Getting back together won't mean anything if you only end up breaking up again due to the same old issues.

Many women go through a break up without understanding why their boyfriends left them. To get past this, you'll need to really identify the problems the two of you were having. Unless something major happened to cause the split, such as one person cheating on the other, chances are you broke up due to the same old issues: excessive fighting, lack of respect, and taking each other for granted. Looking at these causes is all well and good, but how do you fix these things? Moreover, how can you let your ex know that you're willing to work on these issues, and make him understand that you mean it?

To do this, you'll need to go back to the beginning of your relationship. Try to imagine how things were back then... what was said, what was done, and most of all how you and your ex boyfriend treated each other. The first few weeks of any relationship are always happy - this is the honeymoon stage of your courtship. Odds are you were both very complimentary, you were forgiving of each other's annoying little habits (or didn't know about them yet!), and were generally more respectful of how each person felt. Back then, when you were apart, you missed each other. You wanted to be around each other all the time. Why do you think that was?

The answer to that is simple: because you both respected and loved each other. Now, as your relationship ends, you may still have that love... but there's a good chance that the respect is gone. Fighting and bickering over every little thing is one of the biggest reasons a guy will dump you. He just doesn't want to deal with it. Understand this, and let him know you'd like to go back to those early phases of your relationship - back when each of you was tolerant of that kind of stuff, and may even have thought it to be cute.

To make your boyfriend want you back, he'll need to miss you. The best way to do that? Give him his space. For a while, you'll need to leave your ex alone. No contact with your ex-boyfriend should be the policy here, and by that I mean no emails, phone calls, text messages, or anything else. If you've been hanging onto the relationship through such contact, you have to end it... at least for now. You're not looking to be friends with your ex, you want a long-term relationship with him. All that small talk you've been making since he let go of you... it's only prolonging your break up.

Getting your ex to need you again is a huge step toward winning your boyfriend back. As you avoid talking to or seeing him, your ex will become curious about what you've been up to. He may call or email, but you should ignore it - at least at first. Curiosity will eventually turn to worry, as your ex boyfriend starts realizing that maybe you've moved on. Maybe you're over him, or over the relationship. Maybe you've even found somebody else, and started dating another guy.

"But hey, he broke up with me. Doesn't that mean he's no longer interested in what I'm doing?"

Not by a long shot. There are two reasons your ex will want to know where he stands in regards to your future. One, because he doesn't want you moving on before he's had the chance to do so himself. That's outright embarrassing, and a blow to his ego. Your ex would rather see you sitting at home obsessing over the break up until he gets a new girlfriend... not knowing where you are or what you're doing will make him very uneasy.

And the second reason? Most guys who end a relationship always leave the door open just a tiny bit. It gives them an escape hatch to take, in case the break up doesn't work for them. Knowing he can always go back to you - and you'll take him back with open arms - is a very comfortable thing for a guy. It allows him to continue the break up, searching for the next best thing. Take that away from him, and you're jarring your ex out of his comfort zone, making him face the fact that he might lose you for good. This is when your ex will want you back - when you've silently forced his hand.

Learning how to make your boyfriend want you back is one of the most important parts of your reconciliation. It gives your ex the opportunity to take a second look at your relationship. If there's still love between you? You'll get back together. It doesn't matter what either one of you are doing at that point, he's not going to take the chance of letting you slip away.

There are many great techniques for getting back together with your boyfriend, and these are just a few of them. Be sure to check out the whole 8-Step process to winning your ex back at How To Get Back An Ex Boyfriend!