How to Impress a Guy

Does that statement seem a little degrading to you or is it just my feminism vein kicking into high gear? Maybe it's a little bit of both. When I saw this title, I wondered why a strong independent woman/girl such as you would want to know about the techniques of how to impress a guy! I could not write it I thought. I could not do it. And while I semi-fumed and wondered about the degeneration of how this question could even be asked; I suddenly realized that I was being too uptight about it. 'Coz asking how to impress a boy does not automatically put a woman in some groveling position, wanting to do his bidding or take his every call, and it definitely does not equate to giving up on a personality. And then I thought back to that time when I was new to the whole dating game, when I was still finding a footing in this man-woman world and trying to understand the strange dynamics that men and women share. And of course when we like someone, we really do want them to notice us...and the instinct that we go with is - if we are able to impress them, they will like us better. Correct? Initially, yes. But is it true? Not really. When you're in this arena long enough and have met different types of guys, you'll realize the strange dynamics of what this 'impressing-not impressing' deal is. I won't be getting into that one and leave you to draw your own conclusions about what makes a healthy relationship. But until then, if you are still clueless and need some help on how to impress a guy (like some run down version of relationship advice for women), or you already know and need to reaffirm your beliefs, then feel free to go through this piece that follows and you'll hopefully have what you're looking for.

Ways to Impress a Guy

I'm not going to tell you to dress provocatively and listen to what he says, cook for him and basically be at his beck and call. I don't go there. The way I look at it is that we have to co-exist with them, so it is a good idea to know what clicks for the opposite sex and what puts them off. Towards a more harmonious life and all that. That way we are co-existing...happily. All I do in providing clues is to use these good clicks. Here are some practical ways of impressing a guy. And I promise you that none of these will make you hate yourself later or won't have you doing anything against your will. It's simply understanding what clicks for the opposite sex.

I. Myself. Me
First lesson - Please, oh please, be yourself. Do not don on a personality to impress him as you go along, adding bits and pieces and turning into someone you know he'd like you to be and not someone that you are. And then not letting him see a side of you that he'll find just as endearing. Which of course leads to losing those acquired skills as you go along, 'coz yes, that'll happen. And then there will be the losing your credibility bit and some horrid relationship issues in the end. Not good. Be yourself. 'Coz even if he doesn't turn out to be the 'one', you still will be you. Look at it as a way of harboring your good points rather than hiding and disguising your bad. You snore when you sleep...So? It's better he knows about it from the beginning than you having to make excuses for it later, is what I say. Refuse a drink if you don't want one. Be yourself and you are done doling pressure on yourself. And that's a great way to live.

Confidence is in the Eyes of the Beholder
Potent powers of confidence, sadly not many know how to make it work. Do whatever you do but be confident while doing it and do not make an excuse for what you do. Men find it extremely endearing. And confidence? It shows. It is visible in the way you stand straight and strong, it's visible in the way you make eye contact, it's visible in the way you interact. So yeah, fighting your own battles with confidence? Awesome way of how to attract a guy and impress him, of course! But I'd personally go with what it means for you as a person.

We of the Independent Clan
Independence. And knowing how to use it. Being your own woman and being able to take care of your own self? Guys love, love that. So the next time don't shirk away from doing your own thing and putting your foot down.

Grow Up!
Some girls they love the baby talk. Drop it. No baby talk, no teddy bears - it is not endearing! You want him to take you seriously? You have to take yourself seriously first. Stop hiding behind the garb of not being able to do anything for yourself and how you need him to be there for you, and how you're lost without him. You might think that it feeds his ego but not for long and that's really not impressing him any.

I'm Ready...
You know what impresses a guy? Being ready on time and not making him wait! Seriously. You pick a random couple and ask the guy this, and this will be his number 1 pet peeve. So...Be ready on time! Not at all a difficult pointer for impressing him, is it now? And if you're wondering what to wear to impress a guy then let's just say he really won't care what you're wearing if you're ready on time. But why waste your feminine charm so...for the first date a pair of well fitting jeans and a blouse that shows a little skin but leaves a lot to the imagination. And as the dating progresses you can switch over to dresses, show those great legs, bring out the collar bones. We are young only once, after all.

Talents
What men find attractive in women? Talents! That's what will impress him like nothing else. Knowing that he has a foxy, talented lady on his arms gives him a high and gives you the edge. Win-win. Have a great voice? Do a karaoke night for a first date. Tinkering with cars and getting them to start again? Help a stranded person on the road. Great cook? Get him hooked with that mushroom recipe of yours. Impressed. Floored...and hooked.

Cars, Sports and Beer
Weakness. Weakness. Weakness. For guys that is. IF you are interested in any of these things and do enjoy them then you talk about them. Not otherwise. For some guys even you trying is a big deal, so if you're up to it you could try that. But please don't put on a fake personality for this, it's not worth it.

Though these pointers let us know some ways of how to impress a guy, I still say that it's a subjective thing. For some it might be watching you comforting a friend who's lost someone close, for others it might be how you get a seat in the overcrowded restaurant with your charm, for still others it might be how famously you get along with their buddies, beer chugging competitions and all; and for some others it might be how you are always so cheerful and funny even if you've had a rough day. Funny thing, this love. You might be tempted to impress your way into a relationship, but I say you let it happen just as it is. Don't force yourself into it and definitely do not make 'impressing him' a mission in life.