How to Get Your Girlfriend Back after You Cheated

When you get caught cheating, the whole world comes crashing down. Your girlfriend's head is a whirlwind of pain and anger, and you can do nothing but stand there and tell her you're sorry. She rages against you, curses you, hates you, and then tells you she's ending the relationship. No amount of apologizing can change her mind, and nothing you can say will ease her pain. The situation seems hopeless... but in reality, it's not. It doesn't matter what you did or how long ago you were unfaithful, there are always ways of getting your girl back after you've cheated on her. All you'll need is patience, and the right approach.

If you're looking to win back your ex after cheating, you'll need to accomplish the following things, in exactly this order:

Let Her Rage - Just after she catches you with another woman isn't the time to fix your break up. Getting your ex back will take some time, but the process won't begin until she's finished being angry with you. As someone who's sorry, you must allow her that anger. You need to let your girlfriend scream, yell, curse, and pound her fists against the floor with the fact that you were unfaithful to her. The more she gets out, the better off you'll be. Don't make excuses, don't defer blame... let her know flat out that you're sorry, and then be silent while she says what she needs to say.

Allow The Break Up To Happen - When you've cheated on your girlfriend, she's probably going to break up with you. While this may scare you, it's actually okay. In order to rationalize that you're being sufficiently punished, your ex needs to know that you feel similar pain. Breaking up with you is her way of letting you know what it's like to be alone - she wants you to be frightened and scared that you'll never see her again. She might even want you to be scared that she'll run off and start dating someone else. Unfortunately, there's not much you can do here but take it. Fighting her on the decision to break up will only anger her more - it's best to agree and walk silently away, allowing her anger time to subside. This will give her time to sort things out herself.

Don't Make Excuses - One of the worst things you can do after cheating on a girl is try to blame something or someone else. Take responsibility for messing around on her, and don't defer the blame onto your lover, your alcohol level, her recent attitude, or whatever. When you agree with her that yes, things are definitely your own fault, her anger can finally start draining away. Up until that point she'll keep on fighting with you as to who's fault the affair was. . . and that's a battle you just can't win. Learning how to get your girlfriend back after you cheated involves knowing when not to fight her on things.

Make One Really Good Apology - When your girlfriend (or now ex) is sufficiently calm, it's time to apologize. Make a heartfelt, genuine apology for cheating on her, and be sure it includes that you feel sorry for what she's going through right now. Don't make excuses here either - let her know you're accepting what you did and you're very sorry for it. Also let her know that it was a one-time mistake that will never, ever happen again. Even if she's broken up with you, explaining that you'd never cheat on her again will go a long way toward winning her back. In her heart she wants to believe that if she were to take you back, she would be protected from feeling this way again. She may not fully believe it right now, but there are parts of her that will embrace your apology and reassuring words for the future.

Walk Away and Give Her Space - After the confrontation and breakup, you cannot crowd your ex or press her to make a decision. Leave her to her thoughts and the comfort of her friends. She needs to reconcile what happened and determine if she wants to give you a second chance. This can't happen if she's not done fighting with you, which is why steering clear of her is the best course of action. Don't show up, don't call, don't email or text message your ex. Allow her to actually get lonely, and she might even miss you a bit. As angry as she is at you right now, you've been her boyfriend. She loves you, and you're still a big part of her life.

Give Her Time, Too - A few days won't be enough for your girlfriend to get over what you did. Cheating on a girlfriend will always result in a total loss of trust, and in feelings of resentment that will linger for quite some time. Don't be so hasty to get your girlfriend back. Making up too early will amplify any bad feelings she has toward you, especially if she's not missing you yet. By allowing her time to be alone, she's getting a good idea of what life will be like without you. That might not taste so good, and she might even think that if she waits too long she's going to lose you forever. Meeting your exgirlfriend halfway is a lot better than crawling back to her on your hands and knees, where she'll undoubtedly feel as if she can keep on punishing you for the rest of your relationship.

These are just the initial steps to Winning Your Girlfriend Back If You Cheated. Be sure to read the 8-step guide to reversing your break up, and learn the right techniques that will earn your girlfriend's trust again.