How to Get Your Ex Back - 3 Controversial Strategies

You tried everything you could think of to save your relationship, but they still broke it off with you. Now you want to get your ex back, but you're worried that you'll make one wrong move and lose them forever. Then you think, hey; you've already lost them; they broke it off with you. You start to think you've got nothing to lose, so you might as well go all out and do whatever it takes to get them back.

But there's an old saying: if you keep doing the things you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten. Is that what you want? Maybe you think you've got nothing to lose by "going all out" to get them back, but maybe you're wrong. Maybe what you've got to lose is any real chance of getting them back.

Think about it: what made them break up with you in the first place? Chances are it was something you did or said, probably without thinking about it; in other words, it was something you did or said because it just "felt right" to you. What does that tell you? One thing it should be telling you is to stop blindly following your feelings and think about what you're doing.

If you feel like calling him, stay away from the phone. If you feel like emailing her, step way from the computer. If you feel like you should go find them, wherever they are, and beg them to take you back, lock your door and throw away the key!

The "Controversial Strategies" I'm about to share with you are no doubt going to "feel" totally wrong at first, but they've been proven time and time again to be effective. Think about it: if blindly following your feelings was going to work, why aren't you back together yet?

It's time to admit that blindly following your feelings is what got you into trouble in the first place, and that continuing to blindly following your feelings is only going to put you further in the hole.

It's time for a new strategy.

Controversial Strategy Number 1:

The first strategy is to accept that your ex has broken up with you. Acceptance can be difficult, and chances are you're going to have a tough time getting there. You don't want it to be over, so you resist it. Accepting that it is over, whether you want it to be true or not, is a very healthy move.

But how can accepting the breakup help you get back together? First of all, you need to give your ex space to learn to respect you again. Chances are that they're mad at you right now, and if you keep pushing them to get back together, it's only going to make things worse. Accepting that it's over and giving it a rest for a while will give your ex the space and the time to learn to respect you again.

Controversial Strategy Number 2:

The second strategy is to cut off all communication immediately. You're probably thinking, "But how can I let them know how I feel if I cut off all communication? This doesn't make sense!" But this strategy really does work: not only does it help you to accept the breakup, it's the one thing you can do that's guaranteed to show your ex you seriously accept that it's over.

By not communicating with your ex, you're giving them the time to realize they miss you and the space to calm down about whatever it was that caused them to break up with you in the first place. And the time and space will be good for you, too, because it will help you clear your head and get over the resentment you probably feel towards your ex for breaking up with you.

It also sets you up perfectly for...

Controversial Strategy Number 3:

The final strategy is to plan an event where the two of you can reconnect. But there are a lot of super-important things that you have to do between #2 and #3 that you simply can't leave leave out! Find out all about the different strategies you'll need to get your ex back.