How to Get My Girlfriend Back

It's been quite a while since you hit a rough patch in your relationship. Last night as you were at your wits end, you hung up on her and now your worst fear is most likely to come true. Those were probably the last words you spoke to her. It's been 48 hours since that call, and she's underground (I mean she is taking some time out). You don't know what to do and you can't help but wonder about how to get her back. Hmmm... Maybe I can help you with that! The pain and confusion is too much to handle, but for getting back together after a break up, you will have to think with a bit of rationality.

Give Her Time
Giving her time does not mean you have to get over a break up. Since your ex girlfriend is not responding, you need to give her time to cool down. After all the crash and burn of accusations and insinuations, it's unfair to demand. So, hang in there for now. This way even you get time to think of a plan of action.

What Went Wrong?
It always takes two to tango. You will need to think of what went wrong. As much as you'd hate this, but the truth remains, it was your fault too. Sit down and make a list of things that you think are responsible for this state of affairs. Make a note of what your level of participation was in those wrongdoings. Analyze your reactions and your behavior whenever you've been with her. Most importantly, make an effort to change it for the better so that your ex girlfriend gives your relationship another chance.

Now Get Back
Should I call her? Of course! Now is the time. Call her. If she doesn't answer your call, text her. If you still don't get a reply, get in touch with her friends. That's the surest way of finding her. The time spent without you would have helped her introspect too.

Clear Out
Clear things out with each other. Talk out your problems with each other. Tell her what you expect from her and hear out what she has to say. It's foolish to say that you do not expect anything from your partner. Let's face it we all have expectations. Having expectations isn't wrong, but hiding them messes up the situation. Don't expect her to be a mind reader. It's important that you speak up instead of condoning the trouble making undercurrents.

Slow and Steady
If the outcome is that she wants to start anew, congrats!! However, if she doesn't, don't be disheartened. She may not want to get back with you. So what? The fact that she heard you out is good enough to start with. Rebuild your friendship and take things as they come. Initially, do what it takes to be a friend. The simplest thing that you can do is just be there for her. Losing the girl you love is a huge setback. However, if she is really unhappy in the relationship, I suggest let her go.

Towing a relationship and dragging your partner along will only worsen things for you two. Thus, if you are truly in love with her, let her come back to you, instead of you running after her. A true love always finds his/her way home after wandering. Good luck!