How to Fall in Love

Te Quiero, Te Amo, Me Gusta Mucha, Je t'aime à la folie, Mujhe apse mohabbat hai...with a thousand different ways to say "I love you", do you really know how to fall in love?? To begin with, there is no formula for falling in love with someone. No emotion is strategic, which is why love just happens; unknowingly and unintentionally. I am assuming that since you are looking for how to fall in love again or in love (for the first time!), you are pretty much a commitment phobe. And if you aren't, my assumption then is that you are just here to read what I have to say!

Falling in Love

Mechanics of Love
All of us are loved. To be loved, means to be wanted, cared for and more importantly understood. These are somewhat the construed mechanics of love. As a child, as a sibling, as a girlfriend, as a boyfriend, as a wife, as a mother or even as a father, you have felt these technical aspects of love in all relationships and they still count even if they are in the smallest measurement. Love brings euphoria, elation, lightness, bliss and a sense of completeness. So, if love is the answer for how to be happy in life, what's stopping you?

The Fear
We humans are ingrained with an incorrigible habit of believing in Murphy's law, anything that can go wrong will go wrong. Precisely, with this dorky attitude, we miss out evident objects of affection and try to figure out ways of how to fall in love with someone. This is a place where the fear of commitment stems from.

Combating Fear of Commitment
What is commitment? It's not being stuck in shackles of someone else's whims and fancies. A commitment, is a choice you make (a voluntary decision) to be with someone you love, because the person brings out the best in you. Simple?! If being with your husband, boyfriend or girlfriend, is going to bring out the best in you, then, technically, it DOES work in your favor. By the same virtue, you are free to make a commitment!! (I do recommend being selfish here)

Focal Point
Now that we shot dead your fear of commitment, let's focus on how to fall in love. Falling in love is about accepting the person for who they are. It is about a companionship which complements togetherness. If you really want to be with a person (by the way 'want' is your cue), you need to focus on how this person in question, helps you to grow, intellectually and spiritually. If you can be what you are, when you are with this person, it's time you take the plunge.

The Plunge
Phew! It's time, to make it or leave it. The plunge is not some switch you've got to turn on. It the moment of truth you've got to accept about yourself, undauntedly. If you've followed the aforementioned steps, you are ready to be with the person in question. Confess your love without a shadow of a doubt or without a trace of a waver. Don't worry about being rejected or accepted. It's always about loving someone, the returns are always surplus. With this epoch making moment of your life, you would've successfully answered the Herculean question of how to fall in love.

Whether it's about how to fall in love with your husband or with anyone else, know, that if you could love yourself (all your life), you can fall in love. Love conquers all, as Virgil says. Just surrender. Good luck!