How to Deal with Jealousy

One needs to be aware of the fact that, often, the biggest fuel for jealousy is jealousy, itself. Do you find yourself jumping to extreme conclusions on random events? Do you imagine everybody targeting you all the time? Then you might just be chronically jealous. In this state, you will mostly find yourself driving yourself, and your near and dear ones, insane. Often, it is believed that jealousy is a woman's domain, however, anyone can be jealous. So, for the sake of sanity, let's see how to deal with jealousy.

How to Deal with Jealousy Yourself
Dealing with jealousy for yourself can often be a challenge. The first step along the way is recognizing and admitting to the fact that you are jealous. If you doubt everyone who is close to you, or obsess about a single delay in response, you may be jealous. Let's see how to deal with jealousy, on your own.

• First and foremost, you need to control yourself. Life shows each individual several reasons to be jealous. However, that does not mean that each reason can be a justification to the chronic jealousy. So primarily, you need to be able to have control over your own emotions and thoughts, to avoid being jealous.
• The second most important of the ways to deal with jealousy is, to have a good self-esteem. You may dislike it when I say it, but maximum jealous people have a very low self-esteem. That is the reason why they are such easy targets for the jealousy virus. So, if you need to stay away from jealousy, you need to be able to feel good about yourself. This way, another individual's abilities will not affect you negatively.
• Third way of dealing with jealousy is to avoid jumping to conclusions. Hurried responses are often the reason for increase in jealousy. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Do not jump to negative conclusions in the first instance. See both sides of the coin and examine all the possibilities. Not only will this delay the jealous feeling for you, but it will also calm you down with positive energy.
• Jealousy could be a good thing. This point discusses that possibility. Yes, jealousy can lead a person to have the grit and determination and fire to achieve something more than expected in life. This is where the positive impact of jealousy comes into play. However, if this goes out of hand, the negatives may creep in eventually. So, be cautious and conscious of your jealousy and use it optimally.
• Communication is the key. I am not trying to preach. But the fact still remains, that an open hearted discussion can thwart the jealousy worm in no time. In case you are doubting your partner for infidelity, don't feel jealous and anxious. Simply discuss it out with them openly. The conversation will not only bring your jealousy to their notice, but it will also clear your doubts and strengthen your relationship.

All these are steps that one can simply follow to avoid themselves from feeling jealous.

How to Deal with Jealousy for Relationships
Often in a relationship, jealousy can act as the villain. Be it the man or the woman, if either one is jealous by nature, the relationship could be doomed from the very start, whether you know it or not. So, let's see how to deal with jealousy in a relationship.

• Do not jump to the conclusion that every friend of your partner's is hitting on them. There is a possibility that many are, and there is nothing wrong with that. However, that does not mean that your partner is also interested in them, right? Often people are not even aware of their friends having feelings for them. So, do not jump to the conclusion right away.
• Open communication is the best way to keep a relationship safe from jealousy. The fact about jealousy is, that it can creep into a relationship at any point of time. All it requires is a small crack of miscommunication and leak begins. So, beware, have conversations and discussions and make sure that you know each other well. This can have two fold effects, firstly, there will not be anything unknown to foster jealous feelings and secondly, the un-jealous person will be aware of the jealous person's nature and the transition can begin.
• Another requirement for any relationship to avoid jealousy is, trust and honesty. These are the sure fire methods to avoid jealousy completely. Any relationship that thrives on the pillars of honesty and trust, will be away from jealousy, simply because there is no unknown. Just like the fear of darkness, jealousy thrives in the unknown. Honesty and trust are the torches that remove the darkness and eradicate the jealousy.
• Giving each other time is extremely important to avoid jealousy. Surveys have shown that couples that don't get to spend time with each other are often more prone to jealousy. In this case, the jealousy grows to unbelievable extents and drives the couple mad, leading to a bad breakup. So, to avoid the drama, just make sure you spend quality and intimate time together. If in a long distance relationship, speak to each other regularly and visit each other as often as possible.
• Quiet time is often a great solution to the jealousy problem. So, if your relationship is prone to lots of fights due to jealous behavior, make sure that both of you spend some quiet time and analyze the situation. Yes, this is an anger management method, but it also works for jealousy management. So, be quiet the moment the jealousy erupts and give it time to settle, before you talk.

Ironically, in a relationship, jealousy can often distance the very person from you, whom you are fighting to hold closer.

Yes boss, jealousy is a menace, a plague upon the paradise of peace, that can ruin all that is good and true. So, stay away from it. More so, jealousy is the most negative energy that one can put out into the universe, so you can imagine what you will get out of it (hint: negativity). This is where I sign off! Stay sane and stay happy! Cheers!!