How to Deal with Friends

Friends are often referred to as angels or as the special people in your life. They are the ones for whom you have a soft corner and you are uninhibited when in their company. You share many things and secrets with your friends, which you avoid sharing with your family. You feel comfortable in their presence, and you miss them in their absence, you fight a lot with them but you do enjoy your life with them. Hmmm... so aren't friends truly special? Not all of them! Yes, there are some friends who make you angry and are jealous of you. Such people just don't know the meaning of friendship. Irritating, is the word that comes to mind when you think of them. How to deal with friends who are irritating and difficult to handle? Here's the answer. There are different types of friends. So let's see how to deal with those 'problematic' friends.

Dealing with Angry Friends

These may be short-tempered individuals. If you know the reason of their anger, then try to talk with them and resolve the problem in a calm way. If you don't know the reason of their anger, it's probably some misunderstanding. Tell them that you need to know the reason behind their anger. Try to stay calm as anger is futile and will lead nowhere. Try to sort out the misunderstanding. If you feel that you are not to be blamed for such behavior, it's better if you clear this out. If it is your fault, then apologize sincerely for hurting their feelings. If he/she is still not in a mood to talk to you, be patient, give them some time and wait for their reply. But it's wrong if you apologize when it's not your mistake, just for the sake of your friendship. You may do it once or twice, but after that you must realize that your friend does not understand and value your friendship as much as you do. Either he/she is not interested in the relationship or is just misusing you.

Dealing with Mean Friends

There are many people who have a mean nature. If you have one such friend, you may get irritated a lot. You are not at fault if you feel like ending your friendship with such individuals. But mostly, the mean person may cling to you. For the first few incidences when you realize their mean behavior, you may definitely ignore it because it might be just a misunderstanding. A mean friend might make you feel unimportant in front of others. Tell them that you do not approve of their behavior and you don't want them to behave in this way with you. Tell him/her that you cannot continue the friendship if they don't change their behavior. Such friends are of no use and spoil the group.

Dealing with Friends Who Use You

There are many such people who will befriend you just for the sake of getting some work done, in the name of friendship. Possibly, you may have met such friends, but ignored their behavior and wondered that how can people behave like this? Friends, who use you, will always try to praise you, and make you feel great when you are in a group. They are the best at telling you to do something beneficial for them. It's better if you draw the line at the first instance itself, as this might snowball into bigger problems. You might not feel comfortable in communicating this to your friend, but remember that no one has a right to use you for their benefit without your consent. So, don't hesitate to say 'No' to a favor when you feel that you are being used. Mind you, if they don't hesitate to take advantage of you, then why should you hesitate and feel uneasy to say no. Now, it's their decision to change their approach towards you and maintain a healthy relationship or break the friendship.

Never feel sad or guilty if such a friend breaks the relationship with you. Because it proves that he/she was not your friend to start with, he/she was just a person using you for their selfish motives, and was just cheating you and your emotions. Being straightforward and conveying your thoughts and feelings to your friends verbally is the best way to find a solution to the problem. I am sure this article would've helped you with some ways. Good luck!