Handling a Narcissist
Narcissists can camouflage their feelings and desires in an immaculately deceptive way. Nevertheless, there are some effective tips to handle their behavior:
- Don't assume narcissist people to be evil or someone who is there to hurt you. These people do think about the good of others, but their problem stems from their rational mind that makes them the center of this world. Whatever they view, is in relation to what matters for them in life. So, look at them as people who are difficult to handle, but don't develop hatred towards them.
- Numerous cases of narcissistic personality disorders have surfaced in the recent years. There have been many helpful books published on how to deal with them. Moreover, people have come out openly on discussion forums and seminars to spread awareness regarding such behavior. Research and increase your awareness about this problem, so that you can effectively handle such cases.
- Remember, you can't change a narcissistic person. It's next to impossible. You just can learn ways to deal with him/her effectively.
- If you can't leave such a person, because she or he is an integral part of your life, then you've got no option but to deal with the situation. Make yourself understand that you've got to detach yourself from the feelings of that person. You're not responsible for it. Narcissistic people, no matter how much love and attention they get, always feel that something is lacking and they just want more reasons to be unhappy. Don't lose your emotional balance due to them. Their behavior is erratic and demanding to an extent that it's impossible to always please them.
- Don't feel guilty of their upset and raging minds. You're not responsible for it. Seek 'therapy' and take that person to an expert. Although, this may turn out to be negative, as a narcissist won't believe he/she is having some problem.
- Talk to people who've dealt with such behavior as they can tell you some practical ways to handle this problem.
- Reading and learning about this personality disorder will help you to find ways to focus your energies on productive activities, rather than expending your own emotional energy and feeling angry.
- Don't let these people become the focus of your life so that you're always found talking about them when they are around you. Their very objective is gaining attention and your discussions in relation to them in their presence will feed their personality even more.
Nothing can be a more intense example of narcissistic rage than a mother who is completely immature to handle her children. Although, the mother may be a very intelligent and confident woman, she is emotionally drawn from her own child. She is too drowned in her world and thoughts, that she may not realize her child needs love, care, and motherly affection. The situation becomes worse as the child grows and is unaware of her mother's poor care and love towards him/her. The mother competes with her own child when it comes to seeking love and affection from her family, friends, and caretakers. Medical experts who have treated such bizarre cases state the immense value of friends and family members who can help the child grow in a proper environment and also help the mother to get treatment. Extreme behavior in such mothers doesn't even deter them from sexually exploiting their own child. There is no fixed way to deal with such people. All it requires is medical intervention and supervision from friends and family members. As the child grows up, he fails to understand such behavior of his mother and he/she understands it, only after he knows about narcissism.
Dealing with a Narcissistic Husband
Being in a relationship with a narcissistic husband, can turn out to be a tough road ahead. Narcissism is defined as an excessive admiration for self. While some healthy doses of self affirmation is crucial, narcissism goes way ahead to interfere with a healthy relationship and takes it towards an abusive relationship. It is unhealthy to be in a relationship with such a husband as eventually, he may be inclined towards hurting you, emotionally and physically. Medical experts don't have any possible medication and psychologists advise women who have suffered from the rages of a narcissistic husband to take healing programs and strengthen their life. It has to be understood that once a woman starts experiencing such symptoms (which surface erratically in the husband's behavior and is difficult to predict), she should seek help from counselors and psychologists.
Narcissists are not people who come from out of this world. They're among us and they can be difficult to deal within daily life. The situation becomes frustrating when one of them is among your friends or family members, and you've got to live daily with him/her. Understand that often a childhood trauma or poor upbringing of a child makes him grow up emotionally and socially withdrawn, leading to narcissist behavior. Seeking expert counseling is always helpful to trace the root problem, and then finding possible remedies.
Sometimes, in professional life, many people encounter bosses and seniors who're completely closed towards feelings of their employees. Handling them in professional life must not take a toll on your career. If your boss is narcissistic, you don't need to bring in too much of ego issues. Remember, if he is not complimenting your efforts, and tends to be abusive or is demeaning towards you, you can simply quit the job.