How to Catch a Cheater

It all started two years into their marriage. Jimmy suddenly started realizing that his wife Michelle wasn't paying attention to him. Of course it is understandable that after a few years the relationship does not have the steam which it did before, but the suddenness with which Michelle's interest vanished startled Jimmy. And that amidst rumors that Michelle was going out a bit too often when Jimmy was out of town. But Jimmy was not want an out-and-out confrontation without proof. The way he saw it, he wanted proof that his wife was cheating on him, before he made any false accusations. But the thing he pondered over was, 'how do I catch my spouse red-handed?'

Well the feeling of being cheated on is one of the worst, I admit. Few things will ever hurt you as much as infidelity in a relationship does. But in my opinion, it is quite fruitless to try to encounter someone when you don't have enough facts to back yourself up. One might think whether there is a point in performing the entire charade of laying the trap, catching the cheater, confronting them and then breaking up with them when it can all be done so much more directly by simply yelling, breaking up and taking some sweet, calculated revenge on the way out. But then again, wouldn't you want to be sure that the person is cheating on you before wantonly dumping them?

Catching a Cheating Lover

Now not all of us can afford the time to spy on our partners or the money to get someone else to spy on our partner. So there are some simple things that one can do to catch a cheating partner.

The first thing you need to know are the signs of a cheating boyfriend or a cheating girlfriend. Here are the tell tale signs of a cheating partner.

• Does your partner go out a lot these days? Have 'friends' suddenly become a lot more important?
• Is your partner on the phone a lot more these days with some unknown person?
• Has your partner suddenly become disinterested in sex?
• Has your partner become disinterested in the relationship altogether?
• Has your partner started talking a lot more about someone at work, or a new friend?
• Does your partner dress up a lot better for other people than he/she does when you two go out on dates?
• Does your partner get irritated these days with the things he/she thought were cute not too long ago?

While all these signs may or may not be seen, nothing can really compare with your gut feeling. Do you feel somewhere inside that a person is cheating on you?

Way #1
Most cheaters have been caught this way, but they still haven't learned their lesson. What am I talking about? Text messages. Think back over the past one year how many cheaters were caught because they forgot to delete the suggestive texts on their phones. Too many.

Way #2
Now messages can be deleted by people who've learned from the mistakes made by others. But if you are married to the person you feel is cheating on you, I feel you are more than entitled to ask for an itemized bill on the cell phone number of a cheating partner. Being the spouse, I guess the cell phone company might not object. The itemized bill will give a long list of outgoing (and sometimes even incoming) calls and messages which will help you catch them.

Way #3
Drop by at his/her 'class' to check if your partner is really there. Your partner may make funny excuses like they are going to a 'class' or to meet a 'friend'. So you could just drop by under the pretext of surprising them and picking them up and catch them red-handed.

Way #4
You've seen cops and lawyers on TV do it to good effect. Bombard your partner with relevant and irrelevant questions. Look for signs of hesitation. Eventually, they'll balk and you'll find your answer.

Way #5
A lot of people don't know the way catch a cheater online. Flip through your partner's emails. There will be some damning evidence in there. If you don't know the password, you can login through their PC as they will have the username and id saved.

Way #6
This one's cheap, but not as cheap as what your partner may be doing. Get one of those electronic trackers and slip them into your partner's bag or clothes. To be less conspicuous, get one stitched into your partner's clothes. This is the best way to track your partner's movements.

Few things in the world could make you feel so horrible and inadequate than a partner who pretends to love you and then goes off with someone else. Hence I would always say that there is no point in beating around the bush and trying to find ways of catching a cheater red handed. It will only make you feel worse. Dump your partner and move on.