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In today's competitive world, one can never be good enough, right! Wrong! Every one is just as good as they can get. The more they believe in it, the better they will keep getting. However, you cannot be happy with yourself if you keep wondering if you're good enough. That does not mean that all of us should stop working towards improvement. It just means that the attitude needs to be changed a little. You need to make yourself happy by being happy yourself. Get my drift? No? Well, let me explain it to you in a better way.
Measure of Happiness
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John was a simple man. He had a family that he loved dearly. He worked with a bank as an investment advisor. He saw a lot of humility and pride in his job, and it made him happy. However, John was stuck in the same position for the past decade and worked on quite a measly salary. John's best friend James also worked in the same bank. James was a cashier. James had been promoted a couple of times in the past 10 years and his salary had seen quite an increase as well. However, due to the job and it's time requirements, James never had the time to fall in love and get married.

Both John and James were happy with themselves despite the imperfections in their life. This story gives a great lesson of how each individual has a different parameter of happiness. John was happy with himself because he loved what he did. However, he was content and wanted to see personal growth by making sure he had a great family life. He had a wife he loved and children who adored him. He saw happiness in this and was happy with himself. James, on the other hand, was an ambitious man. He cared about his professional growth. He wanted a great salary and a very good post. For that, he did not mind not having a family, for what made him happy was his ambition. He saw happiness in his goal, and was happy with himself.
Fixing Priorities
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Terra and Thelma were your everyday adolescents. They were in high school. However, both of them had very different lives. Terra was popular. She was pretty and, hence (quite clearly) she was the head cheerleader. She loved cheerleading, and most of her friends were cheerleaders as well. Due to her position in the school, it was expected that she mingled more with the popular kids. However, what many people did not know was that Terra had her very own little secret. Terra's best friend was Thelma. Thelma was what everyone could call a brainiac. She was a straight A student and was often below the school social radar. Thelma loved studying and had no particular interest in being popular. She was healthy and fit, but having the perfect figure was never really her goal. Thelma and Terra were happy with themselves in their respective lives. The cherry on the top was their secret friendship. They could discuss everything with each other. Thelma helped Terra with studies, and Terra made sure that Thelma was well informed of all the school gossip. All in all, they were happy being themselves, and yet saw joy in being with each other!

This story shows how two people from completely different social strata can be friends, without any over the top expectations. Terra was very happy being the Queen Bee. She loved cheer leading and was a good leader to her team. She also saw happiness in the fact that she could maintain her friendship with Thelma without putting her through the burden of popularity, which she never liked in the first place. Thelma, on the other hand, was an intellectual. She had her friends in school and preferred being known for her mind rather than her look. She was happy with the fact that she could help her friend Terra in her studies without having to join the popular crowd.
Working Relationships
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Reynold had been single since the past 2 years. He had a very long term relationship. Raine was his high school sweetheart and college girlfriend. Reynold and Raine dated for about 7 years before they realized that they had started growing apart. Reynold was a finance columnist and Raine was the editor of a local magazine. Their jobs required them to put in a lot of time and energy into their work. They both loved their job. It went to an extent when they found that each hour they spent with each other, was filled with disagreements, fights, or uncomfortable silences. They decided to end it on a better note rather than carry on a dead relationship. Reynold and Raine are still friends. Even though neither of them are in a relationship, they are happy. They realized that their jobs taught them how to be happy single. They both excel at their work, spend time with friends and have very vibrant and happy lives.

This story shows that one need not necessarily have a partner to enjoy life. If you are doing something you love and have positive thinking and a comfortable equation with everyone, you can be happy being single as well. As one of my favorite quotes goes, "Life is full of attachments, so being single is a state of inadvertent denial". Find happiness in the attachments of life, and you will be able to be happy with yourself, being single as well.
Happiness is not something that the world provides us with freely. It is one of those things that we need to pry away from its icy grip. However, it is much easier when you don't focus on the depressions of life. Strive to stay happy, and strength, love, success, and friendship will come along with it. Love yourself, and the world will love you. This is where I sign off!! Stay happy!!