How to Apologize

There are instances, when your guard is at place, days aren't fraught with distress much, and you wear a genuine smile at most of the places you go. Life seems like it makes sense, and worries run down the hill, screaming. It is then that, all of a sudden, out of nowhere, it occurs to you that life would've been a bit better, had some people stayed. Agonies, as though they aren't much, would've cut and run, if only you took that one step - the one that'd make them stay, for a while longer.

Perhaps, apologizing for strengths is a tad difficult than apologizing for weaknesses. Relationships, the ones otherwise fortune enough to strike it rich, sometimes, see the deepest of troughs, just because you wait for the other person to take that big step, and apologize. What does it take, really, to mend that broken friendship? Regret? Excuse? Retaliation? Apology. I do know of the fact that you just have to learn how to apologize to a friend, for relationships live by efforts. Meanwhile, cracks will fill up by themselves, scars will lighten, and life, at its best, would embrace you with arms wide open. And what makes me reassert? An advocate with a fancy degree? Been there, done that, and have wounds to prove.

Apologizing to a Friend

Broke a heart? Welcome to the club. One of the recent truths that I was exposed to, was the fact that when you're too close to your friend, nothing can drift you apart. However, when circumstances take turn for the worse, and you end up having a squabble, you tend to speak things you never even thought you would. That's when you break hearts, bruise the ego, and end communication. This, in turn, makes apology all the more difficult, for it's like a broken glass. No matter how much you try to fix it, the crack... it'd stay forever. However, that really doesn't mean you should not break the ice at all. Chances are, your friend might be going through similar plight, and is equally perplexed. Apologizing would not only help you get over the guilt you carried for long, but would also mend that broken friendship. But then, from what I could conclude about relationships, expectations are the root of all causes. You expect and you're heart broken. You get up, and expect yet again, just to get heart broken. Out of the many cliched rules that, I believe, work here is that it's better to not expect your apology to be accepted. If your friend wants you, they'll appreciate your efforts. If they don't, it's better to leave the broken pieces as they are on the floor.

Best Way to Apologize to a Friend

You know, if you want to work things out, apology can be best fixed if it's done at the earliest. From what I have learned, there are two types of friends in our lives. One, we hang around and share our laughter with, and the other, we may or may not meet that often, but when it comes to sharing agonies and tears, we know we have them. Apology to both the type of friends differ. For those casual friends you meet only in parties, exchange hellos, and resume finishing your drink out of sheer awkwardness, your apology approach could be formal. One of the best ways to apologize could be making that phone call, and formally say sorry for your mistake. Think of it, had they been at your place, would you expect anything more? I don't think so. If they really want to be friends with you again, they'll accept your apology without any bustle. However, if they don't, you could just let them go, for they weren't the ones who'd stick around with you for the long haul.

Then there are friends you talk to once a week or two, but still share a fantastic tuning with. Therefore, learning how to apologize to a friend who has always been there for you when times were hard, might require some homework. From what I have seen, a phone call might be a good start to your apology, but that isn't all. For a friend like this, you need to do a bit more. Make a li'l more effort in order to apologize. You know, it's just the first step that is the biggest issue for us. A telephone is capable of eliminating all facial expressions, your stammering and fumbling while you talk to them after ages, and your body language that might, in many cases, spoil the equation totally. Hence, you could always use a phone, request them to meet you for a few minutes, and if they want the same, meet up. Tell them with all your heart that despite whatever happened, you cannot live without them. Don't give up on your self respect, but make sure you explain your feelings to them. Tell them that you miss those sleepovers, those shopping sprees, those conversations when you didn't say a word, yet had a time of your life. Tell them, that you miss it. If this doesn't bring tears to your friend's eyes, I know not what will. However, if they don't show up, you need to understand that apology isn't meant to be reciprocated. Even though you know how to say sorry, you really cannot force the other person to accept your apology and forget everything you did to them. You need to remember that apologizing doesn't fix your broken friendship. It's just a key to the doors of repair.

Apologizing to Your Girlfriend

You mind if I sound a bit chauvinistic? Boyfriends are born to apologize, even when it isn't their fault. Well, drifting jokes apart, this, is an entirely different case as people, at many instances, end up playing the blame-game in the name of apology. This, in turn, makes your partner madder, and insulted. The first piece of relationship advice while apologizing to a girl is that never involve 'ifs and buts' in your conversation while you're apologizing. Blaming her for her part of the squabble would ruin your efforts and take your relationship away from track.

You know, where true love is involved, mending relationships and getting back together is not a gargantuan task. For your girlfriend, even the most basic of surprises would do the tricks. A cute way to apologize to your girl could be greeting her all day with surprise cards that contain an apology quote. A red rose, a box of chocolates, or a show-off of your culinary skills to her (if at all you know how to cook) - while you struggled hard to understand how to make a sincere apologize to your girlfriend, in reality, the easiest approach would be to tell her with all your heart how you'd do any and everything to make her happy. You wouldn't even have to say that you're sorry. If she loves you, she'll understand your intention behind doing all these. Be extremely genuine in apologizing, or be just too darn good at faking! Any way, make her smile by making a mockery of yourself. She wouldn't want to frown anymore.

As you see more of life, you realize that the one person who was supposed to stand by you would be the one to hurt you the most. Chances are, you too could be that person. You'll break hearts, and in the process, you'll get your heart broken too. But then, time melts away much quicker than you can imagine. So, take that digicam out of your backpack, click hundreds of pics, upload them on Facebook and Twitter, show people how good friends you are. Apologizing is just a process you'll go through with the kind of friends you end up disappointing. For the sake of friendship that lasts for a lifetime, forgive with all your heart, love your friends more than your siblings, live your life to the fullest, and create beautiful memories - so that when times are at their hardest, you have these memoirs to hold back to.