"I was born and bred to be a great flirt."
― Cybill Shepherd
Before we begin unfurling the techniques that men put to use to attract the opposite sex, you might first want to know the distinction between casual flirting and real attraction. There's a fine distinction between the two, but it's still a defining one. While flirting is based purely on fun, frivolity, and pleasure, real attraction is more sincere, earnest, and most importantly, remains exclusive. Hope this will help you in ascertaining things.
The body language displayed by a man speaks lot about what is going on in his mind. But if you really want to know whether a guy is flirting with you or not, you have to go by one rule. The rule to not over-analyze things, but take them as they are, because every guy is no Jean-Paul Sartre, but just a man who wittingly and unwittingly communicates his feelings through gestures or words.
Well, this is not to say that all guys are explicit when it comes to expressing their feelings; there are some who have mastered the art of concealing their emotions, but that's just a handful of them and we are dealing with the majority, so we're still cool.
Coming below are some tricks and techniques that men turn to while flirting.
The much talked-about 'eye contact'
Every second website you refer to about flirting mentions eye contact; it might be one of the trite signs you have heard about, but trust us when we say that it's one of the most surefire ways to know if a guy is flirting with you or not. All you need to know is that such a guy will liberally scan you from head-to-toe (could feel a little creepy at times), stare right into you while talking, and will try to maintain a prolonged, intrigued look. In short, his eyes will make sure that they are fixed on you; it is as if they are trying to feel you tangibly with the gaze.
The flirty smile
If a man prefers to turn up only one corner of his mouth, in other words, the lopsided smile accompanied by an impish look in his eyes, then you should know that this guy is flirting with you. The way a guy giggles and beams actually speaks of the naughty things that are working in his mind.
His body faces you confidently
This is really easy to figure, and as we dug into it, we realized that it was logical as well. See, all humans have this propensity of turning themselves in the direction they want to go in, so it is quite natural for a man who is fond of you to incline toward you. He will make sure that his body is facing toward you as if you were his personal source of gravitation. Also, while flirting, he will have a frontal and open body posture and will try to come close to you. And don't forget the tilting of the head!
Volley of compliments
This is something to look out for. One of the most 'duh-uh' techniques that men use to ensnare their chase. They will lavish you with compliments, even notice things like the little bauble that's probably hidden behind your locks, or tell you how pretty you have garbed up, and things like that.
The flirty touch
This is the most obvious sign that a man drops while he is flirting. Men are predisposed towards the tactility and visuality of things; they like to see and touch things. So the next time a guy's arm 'accidentally' grazes against you, be sure it was 'deliberate'. He will try to touch your hand when he's trying to make a point, or while you are sitting next to him, he will try to make a momentary contact with your knees or thighs. Now you know.