How Do I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back Without Looking Desperate?

The break up may have sounded like a good thing at the time, heck, it may have even been your idea, but now you’re having second thoughts. You’re growing to miss your ex boyfriend more and more each day. And now you’re even asking yourself – how do I get my ex boyfriend back?

Well, you should be happy to know that even most perfectly happy and loving relationships had their share of temporary break ups. It’s actually quite normal in the relationship lifecycle. Of course, those relationships that were not meant to be usually stay broken up, and for good reason. However, there are many relationships that end without either side really wanting the separation.

It usually starts with an argument that reaches a critical point where someone suggests breaking up, and neither side feels able to back down from it. It happens all the time. And usually each side secretly hopes the other will back down or at least call them back after the short break up, and many times, unfortunately, each side is too afraid to give in because they’re afraid they’ll look desperate.

Well there is a solution.

Stop thinking short term! If you walked up to your boyfriend today and flat out asked him if he wanted to get back together with you and he flat out said no, do you think that made you look desperate? Look, in the short term it may have hurt your feelings, but in the long term you’ll be so happy you at least tried to reconnect with someone that made you happy.

Here’s a simpler way. Look back the beginning of your relationship and at the good times. Find what attracted you both to one another. I know you’ve had these discussions in your most intimate conversations, every good relationship has. Once you determine those things, ask yourself if you still possess those qualities, and does your boyfriend? And if you don’t, can you get these qualities back?

Now you have something that will get your boyfriend’s attention. You know what ingredients made you happy and you know what made him happy.

Take the first step and call your ex boyfriend and let them know that you’ve been thinking about how things ended and what was said and even apologize for some of the not-so-nice comments you may have made to him at that time (and we all make those comments).

Ask him if he ever looks back and wishes things would have ended differently. The normal response is that they do. Then tell him about the qualities that you miss about him and the nice times you both had together and simply ask if he’d like to give it another shot. This does not sound like a desperate person.

Look, if he says no, that’s fine. Wish him well and tell him to keep in touch. That alone will confuse him. If he says yes, then you may have won back your happiness. Either way, you’ll be happy you tried. Believe me.

My ex walked out on me and I was devastated. I did a lot of soul searching and eventually won her back using some simple techniques.

See how I won my ex back.