How Can You Be Guaranteed to Learn Your Life Lessons?

When the lesson is to be learned, the teacher appears. What happens when the teacher appears and we’re not open to learning?

Then, the lesson comes back again and again, each time in harsher form until it clicks with us. We then get that ‘ah-ha!’ and think we’re brilliant.

For example, guilt ridden after her divorce two years ago, client Michelle dated numerous men that ended up ‘hurting’ her. Each love interest hurt her deeper and deeper. Michelle’s confidence crumbled.

Brent, George, Ted and Nick were all Michelle’s teachers, though she refused to recognize this. To get her attention, each lesson had to come in harsher forms.

What prevents us from ‘getting’ our life lessons the first time around? PAIN!
Pessimism—believing that things will never get better
Arrogance—thinking that we know it all
Impatience—if it’s not clear here and now, we dig no deeper
Narrow Focus—Michelle was so focused on not hurting someone else that she lost sight of her passion to be happy and fulfilled

What allows us get over ourselves in order to ‘accept’ valuable life lessons?
Curiosity—and ask ‘what am I supposed to learn here’ and then be still
Patience—a key factor in getting anything that is truly of value to us
Trust—the teachers and answers as they appear, avoid analysis-paralysis
Step back—from your situation to see what the true meaning is
Awareness—stop and breathe, be aware of the messages coming to you

Michelle stopped her roller coaster ride of one damaging relationship to the next. She followed the above steps to gain clarity. In pinpointed her pattern she was able to change it. You can too.

Valentine’s week is about love. But you don’t have to wait until February to learn. Your intimate relationships certainly provide an education. However your learning opportunities can be so much grander. Love touches your heart, from a sunset to a child’s laughter to looking in the mirror and being happy with whom you have become. What life lessons are looming out there for you to learn? Has the teacher appeared for you? Have a great week and enjoy your discoveries!