Help My Marriage - How to Save a Marriage

The door clicks shut, and the silence is deafening.

It came out of the blue, that your soul mate did not want to be with you anymore. Your love has packed their bags and walked out the door, leaving you sitting in the room alone, the dinner on the table going cold, no one having an appetite. And your head is reeling, your thoughts fluctuating between numb and racing ...where did that come from? How do I save my marriage now?

You did not talk much; "I'm leaving" was the only real enlightenment on the whole situation... and now your heart is breaking!

Given enough time though, when your heart stops racing or thumping, when your head stops spinning, you can start to pinpoint where this might have come from...

Before you do anything else, it is important to work out what went wrong and how to make sure that does not happen again.

I know this all can seem quite hopeless, and in the heat of the moment everything can appear to be lost forever... but it rarely is.

If there was a genuine love between you and a time when you were both good friends, then this broken relationship can mend and be restored. There are things that you can do at the right time, that can help draw you both back together again.

The next important thing here, is not to panic and do something rash that you will regret later. Do not do anything that would potentially drive them further away from you.

You know the kind of things I mean...like texting or calling them a dozen times a day, or you engineer 'bumping into' them where you know they will be, or you quiz your mutual friends about him or her... you know, the 'frantic' stuff!

When you are hurting, your first instinct is to hurt back, or try desperately to get them back...and all I can say is... DO NOT DO IT! Calm down...! (As hard as it might be!)

Any time you feel this way, do not give in to it, and stay away from your partner until you have worked through your feelings and have accepted the situation between you.

The next thing you want to do, even if you don't feel like it, is to go out. Try to enjoy yourself with some good friends and let it go for a while. When your ex partner hears that you are ok, it may even start them wondering about what is happening with you.

They may even start thinking about the good times and the things they like about you... and maybe even miss you! But, if you do not give them space to miss you; they will not be able to miss you....

Absence makes the heart grow fonder and when you are both calm, it gives you both time to think about each other in a real way.

At some point, you will be able to talk about what happened, when it is no longer threatening to either of you to do so, and that is when the opportunity to build bridges and mend those fences can occur. That is the time when the spark rekindles and the passion between you two can resurface.

There is the right time and place for everything, and that is never truer when it comes to the delicate flower of love; and like a fragile flower, it needs the right care and attention ...at the right time.

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