Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Starting with F

Do you want to improve your sex life? It seems that most people do, whether they are heterosexuals, homosexuals, or somewhere in between. If you are like most of us, you want more sex and you want better sex, and you want it now. Don’t believe that there is a magic pick-up line, pill, potion, or perfume that will make it happen immediately, if not sooner. But we do believe that our articles can make a major difference in your sex life, and even in your love life, if that’s what you want. Why not give them a try?

We have so many suggestions for improving your sex life that we are putting together an alphabetical list of what to do. Just so you don’t miss out, we are also putting together an alphabetical list of what not to do. Don’t waste all your time, effort, perhaps money, and perhaps love by putting your foot in your mouth when what you really want; we all know what you really want. This article focuses on fantasy, feeling, and footsie.

F is for fantasy. Fantasies are great in the bedroom or elsewhere as long as they are within bounds (no rough stuff, no degradation, I think you get the idea) and as long as you don’t let them take over. It may be true that reality bites, but we do have to live with it. More or less. If you are up to it, trade fantasies with your partner or partners. But you really should be careful. Some people will use a partner’s fantasies against him or her. This could be as simple as constantly repeating, "So you don’t think I’m as attractive as Cindy Crawford," or "I know you wouldn’t tell Billy-Boy no if he wanted that." Billy-Boy could be Clinton, Gates, or that twenty-two year-old who just moved in the apartment across the hall. Don’t let fantasies take over. And why not give your partner as much as you would give Billy-Boy?

F is for feeling. Feelings… Feelings. When you are feeling it’s great if you are surrounded by feelings. Share you feelings and I don’t just mean the jingling and jangling of your favorite nerve endings. Let your partner know that you feel for him or her across the room, and across the continent. You may even share feelings about a work of art (not necessarily nudes) or a tasty stir-fry. If you really feel for each other, that may enhance your sexual feelings as well.

F is for footsie. Playing footsie is fun. You can always pretend it was an accident if the response is more or less "Get your stinking feet off of me before I call the cops." On the other hand an energetic yet sensual reply is almost a promise of things to come. Unless the object of your affectionate toes is a foot fetishist. Then you may be in trouble. Let’s hope that he or she washes his feet, preferably with an anti-fungal disinfectant. By the way, with the exception of Immelda Marcos who was more of a shoe fetishist, have you ever heard of a female foot fetishist? But there are women who like to play footsie and I don’t blame them.