Getting the Sex Life You Want and Deserve - Starting With B

We all want to improve our sex life; that goes for heterosexuals, homosexuals, and those in between. Virtually all of us feel we should be "getting" more and "getting" better. In fact we want both more and better. What’s the problem, I want it, you want it, what do you say we get together, right now? Alas, life and especially sex life is rarely that simple. There is no magic pill, perfume, potion, or pick-up line that will get you where you want to be before the evening, or if you’re particularly ambitious, before the afternoon, is over.

There isn’t even any article that will do the job for you, or transform a loser into a winner. And yet it is possible to improve your sex life whether you are in the midst of a great relationship, a successful swinger, a three-time loser, or just about anyone else. Sexual relationship success is partly common sense, it’s partly putting yourself in the other person’s shoes before putting…, and it’s partly something else. Well, you’ll have to read these articles to find out about the third part.

We have so many suggestions for improving your sex life that we are putting together an alphabetical list of what to do. Just so you don’t miss out, we are also putting together an alphabetical list of what not to do. Don’t let all your time, effort, perhaps money, and perhaps love, go down the drain by putting your foot in your mouth when what you really want; we all know what you really want.

B is for belief. In some ways this one is quite simple. If you don’t believe in yourself, you won’t find many people to believe in you, whether we are talking about sexual or non-sexual relationships. Of course, if you have been striking out a lot, it’s easy to lose confidence in yourself. I suppose that you could say a mantra such as I’m good enough… before hitting your favorite night spots. But it might make more sense to change venues.

B is for bold. Don’t be a namby-pamby. If you want to meet someone, go up to him or her and start talking. Let him or her know that you are interested. If the answer is a clear no, don’t worry about it, just move on. You should also be bold in moving the relationship to the next level. If she/he says, "Why are you rushing?" the simple answer is "I’m not rushing, I just want to get to know you." You don’t have to add that you mean know in the Biblical sense. For those who are not in the know, Biblical knowledge of someone is carnal knowledge. (Sounds like fun.)

B is for brains. Like they say, your most important sexual organ is between your ears. You were given brains, use them. This advice is particularly directed at the male members of the species. Don’t say something stupid. Don’t do something stupid. Of course when the alcohol is flowing this advice may be hard to follow. But it’s worth it. If you use your brains you sometimes realize that it won’t happen tonight but tomorrow is another day. But sometimes using your brains means you realize that it will never happen and moving on.