Getting Out and Meeting Women

Over the course of the next month, I’m going to be taking part in a 30-day challenge designed to increase my confidence and improve my interactions with women. It’s something that I’ve been meaning to do for quite some time, but with my schedule at work and my commitments to friends and family I’ve been unable to do so.

Attracting a woman is like any other skill, if left alone for a considerable amount of time it will diminish. In order to maintain your confidence and your state of mind it’s important that you get out and immerse yourself in social situations whenever humanly possible.

There is nothing that replicates real world experience. No matter how many articles or books you read, it can never substitute from the knowledge gained through actual physical interactions.

A lot of guys get caught up in the theory behind attraction. They go out and purchase every DVD and audio book they can get their hands on. They attend seminars and boot camps and brag to their friends about the amount of knowledge and information they’ve obtained. But at the end of the day how much has this information really helped the men who have learned it?

There’s an old saying, "those who can, do; and those who can’t, teach."
Regurgitating information is easy, actually putting that learned theory into practice is hard. It’s with this notion in mind that I put together my 30-day challenge.

One of the hardest things that men face when going out into the field is overcoming the fear of rejection. This fear can be crippling and extremely self-limiting. In fact, this fear can be so strong at times that it completely hinders men from going out into the field altogether.

The best way to overcome this fear is by diving in head first, the more thought and analysis you put into it, the more you will psych out yourself. Don’t hesitate, just get out there and dive in.

Here are five easy steps for how to take your theory and put it in action:

1. Set a firm date and time. Saying that you’ll do something tomorrow or later will almost certainly guarantee that they won’t get done. If you plan on going out and practicing your interactions with women, set an exact time, place and date. This makes it measurable and real.

2. Come up with a game plan. Choose a venue such as a mall or a club and make arrangements for how you’ll attend. If the club requires reservations make sure you book them ahead of schedule. Plan for what you intend to wear, who will accompany you if anyone and if your venue is outdoors be sure you check the weather forecast.

3. What do you want to accomplish? Jot down a list of key objectives you want to accomplish. How many girls do you want to interact with? What marks a successful interaction? A number close, a commitment for a date? Etc.

4. Make good on your promises. If you plan on going out on a certain date, do it! It’s easy to come up with a million reasons why you shouldn’t go out, but there’s also a million and one reasons why you should. If you want to improve and achieve greater success with women you need to go out.

5. Take notes from your outing. What worked? What didn’t work? If something you did or said was met with a positive response, build on it. If something wasn’t successful, take a look at what went wrong and brainstorm ways to correct it.

Run through these five steps at least once a month. You’ll find that the first couple attempts are a challenge, but after several attempts you’ll begin to notice a change in your demeanor and the way in which women interact with you. Your confidence will improve and the women you interact with will definitely take notice.

If you’re feeling really ambitious, I invite you to join me on my 30-day challenge. The road of dating improvement is a rough and bumpy one, full of many ups and downs. It’s a tough journey but the rewards are definitely worth it.

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