Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

Whatever the reasons of a breakup, the first step in resolving it is to know what you want. Maybe you broke up because of a misunderstanding, jealousy or insecurity. You need to first understand the basic reasons for the breakup and if you really want him back. Now if the reasons for the breakup was that he cheated on you, then of course you do not need him back. In that case, slipping a hedgehog in the cheating scumbag's bed will make you feel a lot better! On the other hand, if it was something that can be worked on, then try to make the relationship work, only if you are sure that your feelings are true and not because you hate being single or are bored and don't have anyone to go to the Saturday night party with. You will only cause yourself more heartbreak, if you get back with your ex for the wrong reasons. Once you have established that you still have strong feelings for your ex boyfriend and that you cannot live without him, you need a good game plan that will pull him towards you. Here are a few strategies to get your ex boyfriend back.

Strategies to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

Strategy #1
Depending on the amount of time that has elapsed since your breakup and how you have handled it, there are several ways to go about your mission. If the relationship breakup is recent and has not been amicable, chances are that you had been stuffing your mouth with chocolate chip ice cream and other comfort food to drown your sorrows. This type of behavior is purely self-defeating and is not going to get your ex boyfriend to come back to you in a million years. What you need is stop feeling sorry for yourself and get out of the bed and weigh yourself in the bathroom scales. What you see there is surely going to jolt you. Now the best way to get your ex boyfriend back is to get back in shape, get a chic makeover and basically look and feel like a diva. During this period, stop any contact with him. This means no desperate and tearful phone calls, no checking of his Facebook account and no messages whatsoever. Avoid contacting him completely. This will make him think that you have moved ahead in your life and are looking to pursue new things. Start exercising or if you lack the motivation, join a dance class or yoga class. Reconnect with your inner diva and get yourself a sculpted and fit body. Book a session at your favorite spa, get a great new haircut and shop for a whole new stylish ensemble. You are sure to feel a lot better after this shopping and pampering session. The idea here is to not only change your outer appearance, but to feel great from the inside. Once you feel good and confident about yourself, it will show in your attitude and nothing can stop you from getting what you want.

Strategy #2
Now the next step, is to bump into him accidentally in the mall while you are with your friends. Act as if you are very happy with your friends and just greet him casually like any other person. When he sees your stylish new makeover he is sure to notice the difference. Once you have established contacts and he texts or calls you, keep your cool and appear detached and not over eager. Men love a chase and they try to win over women who appear to be disinterested in them. If and when he asks you out for a casual drink, make some excuse that you are busy without giving out more details. This will make him think that you are seeing someone else and it will make him want you more.

Strategy #3
When you do relent going out with him for coffee or drinks, do not turn your conversation towards the breakup, but try to steer it to more neutral topics. If he asks you about your personal life, try to give vague and indefinite answers. Slowly steer the conversation around the good times that you had shared together like the trip you took or how you first met. This allows both of you to conjure up feelings that you had back then. If he gets visibly emotional then it might be among the signs that your ex still loves you. At this point, when he is vulnerable, do not make the mistake of saying that you still love him or are missing him like crazy. Remember that "follow love and it will flee and ignore love and it will follow thee." So try to keep things casual and pretty soon he will come rushing back to you.

Strategy #4
Now that you have gone out with him, post breakup, don't call him the minute you reach home. Although you will have an overwhelming desire to text him or meet him, do not initiate a call or meeting from your side. Have patience and just wait for him to call back. Once he asks you out again, say that you are sorry, but you cannot go out with him, since you are going out with someone else. When he asks you for details, act all mysterious and just drop hints that you have met the most incredible guy and you think that he might just be the "one". This will surely make him come running back to you.

The trick to get your ex back is to make him come to you and let him think that he would be a fool to let you go. Men are ultimately very predictable and they always want what they can't have. In the end, if he loves you, then he will come back to you. And if all these tactics does not work, then you need to move on and try to forget him. Getting back together after a breakup might seem difficult, but in the end it is up to you, if you are willing to put in the effort.