Get Your Ex Back – By Playing It Cool

Is your goal to get your ex back? Breakups tend to make people act a bit crazy. You are on an emotional roller coaster and it’s hard to think straight. All you can think about is how miserable you are without your ex and how you can get them back.

Unfortunately most of us go about it the wrong way. What you need to do is to learn to play it cool and your ex will really start to sit up and take notice of you.

Those of you who have been dumped know exactly what I mean. What most people do is to call their ex multiple times in a day, without waiting for them to call back. If not phoning, then they are texting them or possibly emailing. You may be doing all those things and more. It’s not using your cool at all and you are putting yourself at a disadvantage. Although your ex may feel some guilt that you are so desperate and unhappy, this will quickly turn to annoyance when you continue to harass them. You end up pushing them further away, which is definitely not the goal.

Another mistake is to keep talking to their friends or family. It’s common to pump them for information and ask for them to help you win your ex back. Not only are you putting them in an awkward position but your ex most likely will hear about it, and that is not cool either!

You most likely are trying to convince yourself that if you could just explain properly and tell them how much you love them that they will understand and take you back. It’s very hard to actually realize that’s not what you need to do right now.

Unfortunately if you are doing some or all of those things that you are most definitely NOT playing it cool. Just the opposite, in fact. You come across as weak and desperate. This is not at all attractive to your ex. People are not attracted to the pitiful and weak, you should try to show them someone who is strong and in control of their lives.

So, if you don’t want to give them that impression, what do you do? You play it cool. How you do that is to give your ex some time and space away from you. They broke up with you to get that and you need to give it to them. Besides that, right after breaking up your emotions are ruling your actions. Both you and your ex need some time apart until you can start thinking clearly again. This has the added benefit of getting your ex to have enough time away from you to begin to miss you. Assuming your relationship wasn’t all bad, they will start remembering the good times.

Another thing that is really important for you to do is to get out and about. Hang out with those friends you kind of ignored for awhile after breaking up. Do something fun. Start a new hobby or do something you’ve thought about but never took the time to do before, maybe you didn’t want to spend that time away from your ex. You may surprise yourself by actually having fun without your ex there.

Also, it is not cool to let yourself go while you wallow in your misery. Take care of yourself, eat good, exercise and try to look nice. You don’t want everyone to report how terrible you look to your ex. Plus, it’s not attractive or healthy.

It’s also not a crime to go out on a date. Having fun with the opposite sex may help you get a better perspective on things. Other girls can be fun too. It’s probably not the best time to start dating seriously because your emotions are still raw from your breakup, but a casual, fun time could really benefit you.

Once you start getting out and doing things again, your ex may start to hear things about you. They will be curious about you and wondering what’s up. After all, their picture of you was of you pining away at home thinking about them! If it begins to look like they may not be able to get you back by just snapping their fingers they may get shook up a bit. Also you become more appealing if you are harder to get. People tend to want what they cannot have, especially if they think it should be in their reach.

There are other steps you can take to get your ex to think about you differently and get you closer to getting them back. The site Make Up Magic has videos and articles with great, easy to understand ideas that will help you get your ex interested in you again.

So, remember to play it cool with your ex and act like you’re in control even when you don’t feel like it. It really works. Acting more like yourself may make your ex remember why they were attracted to you in the first place. People are drawn toward what brings them pleasure and withdraw from what causes them pain. If you are serious about wanting to get your ex back, keep that in mind.