Get an Ex Back - A Girl's Perspective on How To Get An Ex Girlfriend Back

If you are searching for how to get an ex girlfriend back, you are likely to be misdirected by asking the wrong people. Despite what anyone may have told you, flowers and sweet talk won't do the trick. However, you can send me some flowers after you get your girl back with my winning advice if you're determined to practice cheesy behavior.

I’ve prepared a simple outline of four steps to help you get your ex girlfriend back without making any of the major mistakes that most guys do. Remember, I'm giving you a plan to follow, but you have to do the other half and actually follow through and put the plan to action.

Part #1: Show composure

Don’t show her how upset you are. You don't want to seem thrilled about the breakup, but stay calm and show that you are willing to accept that maybe things weren't meant to be. Have you ever been around a spoiled child that didn't want any of his toys until someone else tried to play with them? Sometimes just simply giving her a demonstration that you can take a step back is all it takes for her to not want you to go any further.

You want to show that you are in charge of your emotions, and you want her to realize that she can't take you for granted and assume you'll hang around waiting for her. The way you do this is to give her space. After the breakup she’ll be waiting for you to call, and if you don't, she will give in and call you. It works every time, and at this point she is already walking back towards you.

Part #2: You're not her puppy on a leash any longer. Can she handle that?

Keep the call short when she first calls you. Sound a little distant, but don’t be rude or sappy. You want to have one high point in the conversation where you say something that makes her laugh or is just a happy thought that isn't related to the two of you being together. After that, transition to explaining that you have some things to do and will catch up with her later. She will get off the phone wondering why you didn't want to talk with her more, and it will be uncomfortable. How is she going to get that comfort back? The shortest and most familiar path is to make up with you.

Part #3: A familiar voice

Wait a couple of days and then call her back. She will be very excited that you are calling, even though she doesn't show it, but you will be calling to ask her if she has your missing CD or something similar. This will make her feel sentimental, possibly pushing her over the tipping point of wanting to try things again in many cases. If not, make this a quick call, she will have a lot to think about in her empty little world without you once the call ends.

Step #4: Your reward for patience

When she finally makes the call to tell you that she wants to talk, (and she will) ask her if she wants to come over and have the conversation in person. You will do better if she can see your face. Give her a hug if she starts to cry, be comforting and open. Let her suggest trying things again, and be receptive to the idea. You definitely don’t want to be the one that suggests getting back together. If it is her idea, she will be willing to put more work into making it work.

This is just one approach, but it will work for a lot of guys out there. If you want a more in depth explanation of how your ex thinks and her emotional state after a breakup, you should read the How to Get a Girl Back guide.