Frustrated Being Fat?

Webster defines frustration as the feeling that accompanies an experience of being thwarted in attaining your goals. I was judged quite severely for not losing weight throughout my life. The fact that I had single-handedly raised two sons, kept them sheltered, fed and clothed, bought and sold several houses and as many cars, educated myself, and maintained a social life counted for nothing in the face of my not having lost weight. Somehow, it’s like one aw shucks wipes out all the atta boys. Why is there such a stern judgment focused around obesity?

I believe this judgment against obesity was created around a lot of mistaken concepts. The media has for decades erringly touted the glory of emaciation. I’ve always asked my boy friends if they preferred bicycle frames or tuck-and-roll upholstery, and the tuck-and-roll always won the day. I am delighted that the modeling industry has now set a standard for BMI – body mass index. I think it’s pitiful that they had to! The common sense in women has been shattered by this judgment against obesity.

Our parents, our friends, our teachers, and our doctors have all bought into a substantial mistake that has been perpetuated for just centuries unaware, and their buy-in is a part of the stern judgment against obesity. I’ll bet you’re dying to know what that mistake is, aren’t you? It is the reversal of the law of cause and effect. And what does that mean?

If I ask you "What is Cause?" could you answer that question? I don’t think too many of us could answer it accurately. And if I ask you "What is effect?" could you answer that question? I don’t think so, so I’d like to lay out an explanation for you and see if you resonate with it as an accurate answer.

Cause causes things. What do you know of that causes things? Some of you might answer "God" but I’d like to ask you to extend your minds in a different direction. Did you ever read the book Illusions: the Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach? It’s a marvel. In the story, a character is asked to see if he can create something with his thinking. He thinks of a blue feather, and in no time at all, one appears in his experience.

Have you ever thought something and had it appear in your experience? Did you think it was just a coincidence? It wasn’t. It was what is truly Cause at work. Cause is you, thinking and effect is what you get as a result of your thinking. What does this mean related to the frustration of being fat? Oh, just everything, because if this is true, your fat has been caused by you thinking it into experience and can be disappeared by thinking something better in its place.

Now this is a life’s work and I don’t mean to trivialize it by making it appear simplistic. The truth of it is simple. The challenge is in learning how to use this truth to create the body you want and lose that sense of frustration. Your frustration is holding the fat in place!

I would encourage you to do some research on the topic and then study what you find. Beginning in itself will lead you to the next steps. Type "mind is cause" or "cause is mind" into one of the internet search engines and follow what shows up. Consider taking philosophy courses at your local junior college. Search out this topic in old book stores – or new ones.

You deserve to have the frustration you currently feel disappear into its native nothingness. I was able to do this and I’m confident you can too.

Pat Matson loves life and its lessons. She’s made learning those lessons her edge. Pat has crafted an understanding about life through using the obesity she bore as a catalyst to search for meaning. Her generosity compels sharing this understanding. Her insights, humor, warmth and honesty will both entertain you and aggrandize your life. Pat invites you to embrace your own World of Within. She can help you do that at www.theworldofwithin.com.