First Date Conversation Topics

Alright, I just saw "50 First Dates" for the millionth time today, my theory about the importance of a first date just got re-affirmed. Don't get me wrong, a relationship has many pillars to hold it up, but the first date is like a foundation. It has to go right. No, that does not mean that it has to be perfect, it means that it has to be just right. Thin line, big difference. As I was saying, The first date is important because it is during the first date that first impressions are made. We all know the importance of first impressions, right? So, let's get down to the conversation starters and topics for the first date.

Conversation Questions for Your First Date

No conversation can be complete without the exchange of a few intelligent questions and answers. However, don't go about asking things like "So, are you single?" seriously, the next time I hear one of my friends whine about their date asking them that I will have to pound the wall down. Just read the questions below and stay in the area of these questions, please!

• How was your day?: This is a subtle question to get the ball rolling. More so, it is polite to ask this question.
• So, what do you do?: This question is to know more about your date's profession and field. Everyone likes talking about their field, so it is a safe question.
• What do you do in your free time?: This is a good question to know about your date's interests and hobbies.
• If you had to choose, which one would it be - fame, power or money?: This question can help you gain insight into your date's goals in life.
• What is your zodiac sign?: Many would disagree, and many would violently disagree with me when I say that zodiac signs do play a role on a person's personality. More so, this question can be followed by a detailed discussion about your date's personality traits.
• Are you hot tempered? Can you control it?: I believe that a person who cannot control their temper cannot control their life, so, in my opinion this is an important question.
• What is the craziest thing you have done?: This question is great to lighten the mood, as well as know the crazy side to your date. Every one has a crazy side, that is what helps bring the glint in our eyes, so you need to know that about them, right?
• Have you had a relationship before? What was it like?: Yes, people would say that a first date is a bit too early to ask the "EX" question. Nonetheless, it is important to know their perception of it, before you get into one with them, right?
• Are you a terror boss personality, or a cool boss guy?: I tried this question, and realized that the answer does not matter as much as the person's attitude towards it. Let's face it, even if the person is a terror boss, if they are honest and humble about, it speaks volumes of their character.
• Do you cook?: Being a woman, I like to see men who can cook. It gives them more endearment points. On the other hand, most guys like women who cook, the Oedipus syndrome (want for a woman like their mother) coming into play. However, be honest when faced with the question, and don't give judgmental reactions to the answer.
• How would you describe yourself?: This question eases most troubles as it can lead to the conversations going on all night. Works well, trust me!!

So, by now I am sure that you know the nature of the questions you need to ask.

Conversation Tips for Your First Date

Alright, now that you know what kind of things to talk about, you also need to know how to say things. There are some very important tips that you will need to make sure that you carry on the conversation in the best manner.

• Firstly, it is a date, not an interview. Do not keep the rendezvous going on like a quiz show. Let each question and its answer develop into a friendly dialog.
• Humility is important. Even if you may be all high and mighty, you cannot throw your weight around on your first date. You should not throw your weight around, period. So, make sure you treat the other person with respect and importance, if you want a second date to follow.
• Flirting is important. No matter how much you try to deny it, you are naturally flirtatious to your subject of interest. So, flirt with them. However, your date will get uncomfortable if you end up overdoing it. If you notice the discomfort, tone it down.
• Do not throw racy comments on the first date. While putting out on the first date isn't an alien concept these days, giving your date the hint that it is all you are looking for is annoying. So, you may feel rushes of desire in your date's direction, but you need not make it obvious.
• Let your date speak. People often start blabbering on the first date and don't really give their date a chance to speak. However, if there is silence, strike up conversation. Nonetheless, if your date is speaking, let them finish, you can respond or probe into it once they are done.
• Hold back the crazy. The first date is not the time to show the person how wild and crazy you are. Show them the intelligent, sweet and endearing side of you. While I am sure they must be aware that everyone has a crazy side, wait till at least the 3rd of 4th date to show it to them.
• Look into your date's eyes when talking to them. Eye contact helps people bond and hold conversations longer. More so, if you look into their eyes when you talk to them, or when they are talking to you, they will instinctively be assured of your sincerity, as well as your confidence.

Keep these tips in mind, and your date will go far smoother than it would have without these tips. If you are already doing these things, then you are about as good as it can get (if you are a guy, call me!!).

Conversation Ideas for Your First Date

You cannot have questions going on all over the place, can you? So, here is a list of a few things that you could talk about on the first date. These are safe conversation topics, and will help the talking happen freely. You can talk about the following topics.

• Current events: Talking about what is going on in your local world is a great way to know what your date pays more attention to.
• Movies: This way you can see if your taste in movies match, meet or beat.
• Family: It is good to know about a person's family on the first date. It also gives them the impression that you are not only intelligent, but interested as well.
• Profession and industry: This will let you discuss your professional lives. Always remember, professional life is a very major part of our life.
• Passion and hobbies: This is the other side of our life. It is very important to discuss this as well.
• Future goals and ambition: It is important to know where the person is heading. If it matches with yours, or, will it led to a dead end.
• Personal nature: It is important to discuss your nature with your date and vice versa, at least, a bit, to know what you are getting into. Rather avoid a second date, then get into a terribly mismatched relationship.
• Sport/Fashion: These conversations are good to fill in silences or just warm up.

The bottom line is to be yourself and be kind to the date. Hope it works out for you. This is where I sign off!! All the best!!