Falling in Love With a Married Man

Love is blind, so they say so. But to what extent, I don't know.

Jenny and Oliver shared an inexplicable bond, which continued to build like the slow bloom of a lotus that intensified with the coldness of the night and shied away when the sun darted up. They were the intangible clay ready to be sculptured by the master craftsman. As the divine design tempered the bond, the closeness heightened between, giving the relationship, a mysterious sense of permanence. His simplicity left her in an ocean of thoughts, in tale of woes, in moments of love... It was a gamut of emotions filled with worries and cares, despair and hope, tears and smiles, joys and sorrows. He sang the song of Hope to her. A song, which made a vow to show her the way. A song, promising her the sustenance of the enigmatic connect they shared. As the song camouflaged her fears, she decided to walk with him to strive for the bond which was immaculately theirs, above anyone's debate or appraisal.

Yes, the connection they shared was theirs, but sadly since Oliver was married, it added some realistic dimensions to it. His marital status, made the situation not just their business, but it expanded to those related to them. Jenny, was falling in love with a married man, blindly, knowing that the relationship would never reap a picture she desired.

The Right Thing
He was married, he had a wife, children, extended families and moreover he was older. Initially, it began with late night chatting and unstoppable texting, which led to secret meetings. He was, and still is (so she believes), the perfect man she ever met. They shared the same goals, intellects, desires and above all a spiritual connect. So, if there were so many things that supported them being together, then, having an affair with a married man, seemed like the right thing to do. Since, he too felt the heating chemistry, the plunge was mutual, but irrational in the long run. And so began the epoch making turn, in both their lives...

Not Always
Oliver wanted her, just as much as she wanted him. It was just like Garth Brooks sang, It's when you're dialing 6 numbers just to hang up the phone, driving cross town just to see if she's home, waking a friend in the dead of night just to hear 'em say it's gonna be alright, when you're finding things to do not to fall asleep cause you know she'll be there in your dreams, she was sure more than a memory for him.

As days become months and months changed to a year, they could limit the relationship to just an affair. He could not commit, since his ethics, told him otherwise and she soon understood this. It would just be an extramarital affair. Although, it would be unfair, to say she did not want to make a life with him. As much as she wished the same, she reeled under the pressure of guilt more and more. Suddenly, the affair was making their worlds fall apart, as reality slapped their face reminding them to get back to their lives. When Oliver's wife got to know of it, things got sour for them too. However, since Oilver and his wife had kids involved, she gave him a second chance. Jenny knew that she could not be unfair to her or him any more. And so, they had to let go of their foolishness and move on...

Moving On
Moving on after a break up is the most difficult and painful thing to do. She went into massive depression and social withdrawal. It killed her not to hear his voice and sleep to his messages. But, she had to do it. The late night chats and the day time phone calls stopped, except for occasional 'Hellos'. They met, only in public places and refrained from any activity which was a reminder of the affair. Oliver was supportive of Jenny's decision. She too understood the need to move on, and get back on track. She got involved in her work, to forget about it and he returned to what was his, with a clear conscience. Thus, hurt, but stronger, they moved on and learned that the connect they shared had left them with edified minds, for better lives ahead.

Hence, work with your head and not the heart for it may not be right always, is my suggestion. Love may be blind, but that does not mean, you pull any act to hurt yourself. Your happiness maybe the most important thing to you, but that does not give you the right to steal someone else's. A married man comes with a baggage, so if you aren't ready to accept it, you can't disrupt it either. Take care!