Exerting self-control is not as difficult as you think!

I guess just like me, you too at times find yourself unable to exert enough self-control. This is probably the biggest challenge for anyone who wants to lead a life of purpose.

It all comes down to willpower, doesn’t it? And yes, it is hard. But here is some good news to make you feel better about having to exert self-control.

Do you know about virtuous circles? A virtuous circle is a chain of events, where each event increases the good effects of the previous one. Sounds confusing? Here’s an example: The more confident I am, the better my communication skills will be, and the better they become, the more confident I feel! So both the good things are leading to each other, and on the whole they’re leading to good effects! That’s cool, isn’t it?

Now did you know that whenever you’re able to exert self-control successfully, you set off a very powerful virtuous circle? What I mean is that, whenever you’re able to stop yourself from doing something you know you shouldn’t do, the probability that you’ll be able to stop yourself the next time you feel the urge to do it, increases manifold.

Ok, let me give you an example (again!). Let’s say you’re trying to lose those extra pounds, and finally, one day, you did manage to convince yourself to walk past that delicious cake. Now the next time you try this, you’ll have to exert much less force to make yourself do the same again.

It works this way because, once you’ve done it, your subconscious knows you can do it. That makes exerting that bit of control a LOT easier, ‘cause as I said, from the second time onwards, your mind is already conditioned to be able to do it.

I’ve experienced this effect personally, many times. I can guarantee you too will feel that way once you’ve tried it.

You must be thinking, "But how do I do it the first time?"

Hey, haven’t you guessed already? Why did I tell you all this? Ok. It’s easier the second time. That would mean you’d just feel it once you have a second go! What’s the use of knowing this?

It is only this, that this should give that extra boost that’s necessary to make it possible for you to do it once!

Come to think of it, what’s the major challenge we face while trying to exert sheer willpower? We feel miserable. We feel miserable not to eat cakes and pastries, not to smoke, to stop watching TV and go do our homework…And we think that if we have to make this change permanent, that miserable feeling will become permanent too! That’s why we’re afraid of trying even once.

But now we know that we’ll feel this bad ONLY ONCE-that is for the first time-and never again! That should make us feel a lot braver while facing that challenge. And that, I’m sure, will do the trick!

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