Emotional Cheating Signs

Am I being emotionally cheated? Tough call. Before we getting to answering that, let me tell you that emotional attachments are inevitable, and these cannot be seen through lenses of black or white. There are myriad shades of gray, that you need to consider to know where your relationship is headed. Most relationships do take a detour on the highway of life. It is the demanding careers, hectic lifestyle and the maddening race of existence, that gets most of us stuck in the web of emotional cheating. The first thing that you need to understand, while comprehending the nuances of any form of cheating in a relationship, is that it takes two to tango.

Undercurrents of Emotional Infidelity

Starting Point
A relationship is a union of two people, who can relate to one another. However, in many cases, either of the partner may be in a relationship for superficial reasons, such as partner's physical appearance, one cannot relate for a long time. When people hastily get into relationships, they often overlook the partner's psyche and level of understanding. When your partner fails to understand you, that's when the trouble begins. Naturally, as your partner is incapable of understanding you, you begin to look out for people who can understand you, share your thoughts, emotions and sentiments. And hence it begins...

Growth of the Relationship
With the advent of Internet and the launch of social networking sites, every breathing moment, there is no dearth of human race, looking out for partners. Analyze from your own experience, the number of virtual friends you have. I am sure even your partner does. So, if you do not be a part of your better half, it's going to lead to a catch-22 situation. Your partner is going to spend hours and hours in the virtual world, discussing the woes of his life. The virtual world is going to be his backup if you do not probe into his mind and allow him to speak up. The point is, emotional cheating signs in many cases may not lead to physical cheating. But when it does, the situation surely goes out of hands. So, save it well in time.

Who Is More Susceptible?
Both, a man and a woman are equally susceptible to cheating in a relationship. Woman tend to be slightly pushy in relationships. They want to be heard and understood. When the man does not, she will look for someone who does. On the other hand, a man will find the pushy woman, nagging, which will motivate him to seek a sober personality. Thus, it is a vicious cycle.

Am I Being Emotionally Cheated?
To come back to your question, you may be emotionally cheated on, if your partner spends long hours away from you and does not involve you in his regular activities. If your partner is secretive about the activities, regularly meets a 'friend' for dinner, has a security code for cell phone and every computer file and completely refuses to share the most intimate thoughts, fears, hopes and dreams. Past lovers are the epicenter of friction in a relationship.

Communication is the Key
Instead of confronting your partner with accusations and complains, I suggest analyze yourself first. You need to know first why is it happening. Bridge the communication gap with your partner, have open discussions, disclose your fears with feelings and be a good listener to your partner. And if it still gets tough, remind yourself 'of what you fell in love with'.

Emotional infidelity in a relationship becomes difficult to avoid, if emotional distance goes on stretching farther away, every single day. Help your partner to rebuild the lost trust and integrity in the relationship. Work towards relating to one another and everything else will fall into place. Good luck!