Nothing Red, Pink, or ❤-shaped!
We asked a few good men working with us to give their views on this topic. Almost all of them don't
wish to receive anything mushy―collectibles, chocolates, soft toys. While they do
appreciate usable gifts―gadgets, alcohol, tickets to a sporting event, and homemade delicacies (not red, pink, and heart-shaped).
There are a lot of things that may seem very uncertain or insensitive about men: Their inability to understand what is the big deal in remembering birthday or anniversary dates, or even Valentine's Day for that matter; their deadening interest in spending 'quality time' with their partner that includes only talking, and the repleteness they feel while watching a soccer game, instead. The list may go on and on, but let's just stop complaining and start accepting that men will always be men!
If you've been in a relationship long enough, it wouldn't be a breaking news to you that men and women are wired differently, absolutely differently! There is a reason why books like Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray
are among the best-selling books we have today. Though it would be wrong to generalize all men when it comes to their likes and dislikes, trust us when we say: It wouldn't be that wrong! Even, when it comes to Valentine's Day, they wouldn't mind receiving gifts as long as they escape the 'mushy-love-elements' and are useful and practical.
To Pick or Not to Pick: Know the Dos and Don'ts
The basis of your Valentine's Day gift selection for your partner would depend upon a simple fact: Like women, men don't need constant cutesy collectibles, flowers, and chocolates to be reminded that you love them. You are by their side, that says enough. Another point to remember is that practicality reigns over emotions in their lives. So, you need to think with your mind, budget, and sort of, make your heart coordinate with them. The following sections will give you a brief insight on the rules that you must follow. These have been written based on various opinions taken by a few good men working with us.
Caution: Some points may raise your eyebrows; however, know that this is how men think!
The Dos You Must Remember
Go beyond ordering ready-made grubs
: One of our co-workers said that he would love breakfast in bed to begin with. So, yes, begin the day by cooking their favorite breakfast, and serve it to them in bed. A lot of men also said that they wouldn't mind some homemade food and sweets, but yes, we've already cautioned you about them not being heart-shaped.
Gadgets were, are, and will be the ultimate choice
: This happened to be the first answer we received from all the participants, aren't they all gadget freaks or what! The latest iPhone, DSLR camera, smartwatch, PlayStation, notebook, tablet, and even remote-controlled helicopters, cars, astromech droids, fighter tanks, and the like.
Think of expensive branded accessories
: Who says men aren't high-maintenance? The next on the list are 'branded' and 'expensive' gift items. We got options including leather wallets, watches, shoes, designer sunglasses, perfumes, clothing, and other accessories. However, unless you're really sure of their taste, let them do the choosing themselves.
Keep their hobbies and interests in mind
: For instance, one of the participants said that he would love anything related to soccer
and alcohol! While those who loved to read, wouldn't mind some interesting books
as gifts. If he loves to go camping, or organizing barbecue grills, why not get one as a gift? This rule not only helps you hit the bull's eye, but also makes men feel that you are taking interest in their likes, which we think is a good sign.
The way to a man's heart is through his stomach!
: Another important thing to keep in mind is to make your man feel appreciated and loved. And yes, some men do like to have your undivided attention. According to the opinions we received, most didn't mind an exclusive dinner, either made by their partner, or arranged at their favorite restaurant. Hence, the age-old saying stands true!
The Don'ts You Must Not Forget
No "girly" stuff
: "Please, oh please keep the PINK away! Gift vouchers, song dedication (wouldn't mind her singing though, as long as its one LITTLE non-girly song). Anything that would make the girls go, AWWW!", said one co-worker who gave us his valuable input. We were surprised to find out that most men are against gifts that are red, pink, and "girly". Wow!
No cute and cuddly collectibles please!
: Women think that collectibles are perhaps the safest options to be given as Valentine's Day gift, they seriously need to wake up! One feedback we received, stated this: "I don't like soft toys, anything that is heart-shaped, bouquets, baskets, greeting cards, photo album with photos of time spent together, small pink objects that say, 'forever together' and stuff like that. Stupid collectibles saying, 'miss me', 'love me', and so on. I would like to eat cakes and chocolates but only if they are not heart-shaped."
Excuse the personalized Valentine's Day gifts
: They are a rage among many couples these days. But we did sense some resistance towards men receiving personalized T-shirts with love messages, pictures, and mushy sayings. Typical Valentine-ish red/pink coffee mugs and picture frames with hearts are a definite no no.
Greeting cards with long messages―absolutely no!
: Greeting cards and messages are alright (we did see a couple of men being open to these), as long as your messages are simple, short, and sweet. Women tend to write a Bible (no offense) in greeting cards. While it works great for them, men might actually find it a little too much. And then the expectation of remembering each and every sentence, seriously: Too much!
Women would fail to fathom what is up with men being against the color pink and heart-shaped gifts. Especially, when it comes to the eatables, it shouldn't represent a heart; how does the shape matter when it's going to turn into mush anyway?
To conclude, the small in-house opinions we sought from our male colleagues, pretty much zoned out the "ideal" gifts that are advertised on various websites
on this day. So, women, keep all the keepsakes you wish to view, and gift all the practical items your men will use. We would also like to add that the aforementioned points are written based on individual opinions of the participants. The choice of gifts is subjective, and varies from one person to another. If your relationship is fairly new, you need to know more about his life, find out the kind of guy he is. Escape the intimate messages, and keep it funny and short. For those who have been in a long relationship, we needn't say anything more, or do we?