Does My Ex Still Love Me

Take a look at me now, cause there's just an empty space
And there's nothing left here to remind me, just the memory of your face
Take a look at me now, cause there's just an empty space
And you coming back to me is against all odds and that's what I've got to face

Everyone who has been through a break-up will identify with the sentiments in this Phil Collins’ song. Relationships enrich our lives and make it worth living, but a relationship gone bad, can affect you for a longtime after it is all over. Parting ways with someone whom you love the most is one of the most painful situations in life. We’ve all been there - through lonely nights that don’t seem to end, and days that seem to be haunted with the thoughts of your ex. The first few days just seem like torture when you cant seem to move on and forget all about him/her.

If you are recovering from a relationship gone bad, and if you are simply hoping that your ex gets back with you - it is always better to give yourself as well as your ex, the time to think about it. If there has been no communication from his/her side and he/she seems to be doing just fine after the break-up, it means you need to move on. However, don’t be too hard on yourself - take your time to get rid of the ghosts of your past. There will be a better time; better relationships and you will move on…time heals everything.

However if your ex seems to have a difficult time to let you go and still seems keen to get back together, you need to think about the situation. Sometimes your ex might just be trying to be nice to you to help you cope up with the break up, by being friends. So do not read too much into the initial calls and other nice gestures. However if the behavior continues after a certain periods of time, it is time to discuss the issue. In case you are not sure whether your ex wants to get back together or is simply being sympathetic, there are ways to find out. The first and the most effective way is – communication. Obviously you would find it a bit awkward, but do it subtly. Try and ask why he/she still keeps calling you everyday or still wants to meet over the weekend.

In addition to this, there are some signs which are clear indications that your ex is still in love with you. If your ex seems to be apologetic about the whole thing and keeps on telling how he/she has committed a huge mistake by breaking up with you, then there is a stark possibility that he/she is hung up on you. Also if you find that your ex keeps on making plans to meet you and keeps on calling you like old times, he/she might be contemplating the thought of getting back together. If you have ended the relationship and don't want to be with your ex, you should always try and make things easier for him/her. Constant calling and meeting up, or even talking about the other people you've already started seeing is plain rude. Always treat a person in a way that you would want yourself to be treated.

After a break up, very often people feel insecure and obviously want to enter that security blanket that relationships provide. At times these people tend to ignore the reasons which once seemed big enough to call it off. Think of these reasons before considering the idea of getting back with your ex. Hence if your ex seems to be in love with you and wants to get back together, it is always better to give each other some space for a while until you get over the initial days of solitude. Once you are emotionally stable, you can think rationally about the whole thing and decide whether you really wish to get back together. At the end remember that every relationship is based on the mutual trust and respect between the two people. It means starting right from the beginning - back to square one! It is not impossible, but it’s not exactly a cakewalk as well…a relationship once broken can obviously be mended but it calls for tremendous efforts to make it work…again!