Dealing with Online Break-Ups

Sadly, no. Breaking up online leaves deeper scars than in offline relationships. This is because most of the time, people treat the relationships (whether platonic friendships or serious relationships) as casual when it comes to breaking up. All that is done to end a broken relationship is a mail or IM to disconnect totally. What is left behind is an incomplete relationship neither fully there nor fully broken.

Breaking up respectfully is the best way to end an online date. The time you have known each other matters too. If you have known each other for a longer time then, the pain is deeper. What you need to do to end a relationship gracefully is this:

Honesty is the best policy. Be sure to explain to the person why you need to break-up.

Take time to listen to what the other person may have to say about how he/she feels about the break-up. You owe them this much at least.

Do not allow guilt to pull you down. You know why you are leaving the relationship. That does not mean that you allow your ex- friend’s emotions to make you feel guilty. Even if you are to blame for the break-up you cannot carry the cross of guilt throughout your life. You need to go on with your life.

If you have met in person, having known each other well, then, don’t break-up in public. That can be regarded as humiliation and you don’t want your relationship to end in bad taste.

Finally, don’t get into dating immediately. You don’t want to get into another relationship on the rebound.

For those getting dumped, it can be very painful as you have not been expecting this to happen. The breaking up can take a longer time to heal so, take some time to do the following:

Reflect on the reasons for the break-up. Don’t dwell only on the nice things that brought you together once upon a time. This way, it will be easier to carry on.

Change the scenario. You don’t want to be reminded again and again of a relationship gone sour so, get rid of all the things like letters, cards etc given by that person.

Bring about changes and improvement in your life both, mentally and physically. This you can do by doing some volunteer service, by helping those less fortunate than you. This not only helps in healing your pain, you also realize how little your hurt is when compared to others.

Breaking-up is never easy. It is painful but not impossible to get over with. Once the break-up is done do away with it for good. Don’t allow it to penetrate into your life again and just see how well you cope!

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