Dating Rules for Men
Working hard in the dating world but eventually no success yet? Probably, you need more preparation and awareness about effective dating rules. Keep reading to know more.
Dating Rules and Etiquette for Men
Don't be Desperate
Most men tend to misunderstand that dating is a rigid concept for which they've to seek some prior permission or appointments from the girl they want to go out with. And so they relentlessly pursue her, asking for a date, as if it is the question of life and death. No matter how many times they've to listen "no's" or "I'm busy", they take it as a sign to "try harder" and this categorizes the request into much negative category, that is of desperation. One of the most crucial dating rules for men is not to ask her to come out with you, many times. Once or twice is enough to give her a hint, if she is interested.
Guys, if a girl is interested in you, even 0.9999...%, she will eventually reciprocate your request within two - three requests. And that is where actual dating comes into play. You needn't be desperate as that annoys girls especially if she is least interested in you. And ask her to go for a movie or a cup of coffee. Don't be dumb and ask plainly, "can we meet" or "I want to talk something". If you ask her correctly, there are better chances of your request being accepted.
Take the Initiative
You like the girl. You've asked her to come out with you. You're interested in her (maybe she is also). So as a part of your 'dating ethics', you should be the one who must take some extra effort and plan your date perfectly. This will reflect that you're caring and concerned as well as you're seemingly optimistic about taking it forward. So when you both meet, don't just ask where she wants to go or what she wants to do on the date (duh! killer question, ending all further 'date dreams').
Instead, if you have some clue about her interests areas or what she likes most, then be creative and come up with interesting ideas. The date should be fun and interesting for her. If you've planned to visit a restaurant, make prior arrangements for seats and order at least two meals, as a choice for her. She'll love the gesture and appreciate your concern. And not necessary you've to take her to a damn expensive restaurant. Do what you can live with! That would be more appreciated by an understanding lady.
Stick to the Basics
First impressions do last especially with your personal appearance and with dating rules and etiquette, so ensure you dress smartly. Now being smart often tends to be mistaken for being over-smart and eventually you may look stupid. Simplicity is always a smart choice and so dress in what you're comfortable. Personal hygiene conveys a lot about you. Table manners undoubtedly reflect your awareness about socialization skills. Most importantly, be humble. If you're in a restaurant, treat the waiter well. Don't present yourself as a very dominating or intolerant guy. Use all good manners you've learned as they are necessary to make her feel, you are grown up. Don't show her that male chivalry is archaic and obsolete. It is so much in existence, so much evolved. Ensure her safety, open the door for her, pay the bills, offer her your jacket if she feels cold or show concern with various other small gestures.
Listen to Her
If I say to you to never ever forget any one of the dating rules for men, I would choose this one. Women love to be listened. So listen to her when she is talking to you. Maintain an eye to eye contact while talking to her. Don't just 'hear' to what she is saying, 'listen' to her. This creates a bridge between you and her. You will understand her much better. What else do you wish to do on a first, second or a third date? So try to know her as much as possible. And if you really like the woman, you will, for sure listen.
Don't Over-communicate
Ok, your father owns the most expensive series of cars or you're the basketball champion of your college. Good job. But then don't brag about something that is definitely not too logical for a date. Blessed with amazing intuitive power, women will easily figure out you are bragging. Don't get too much into your family/friends or her family/friends just on the initial dates. It's appreciable to talk and know about your love interests acquaintances, but at least know her first properly. There is a way of talking everything and even if you talk about your life, or precisely, past life, maintain balance. Leave something to talk for the next dates!
Compliment Her
Who doesn't love compliments? However, fake compliments are equally harmful, so be honest. Whether you're saying, "you've an awesome dressing sense" or "you look beautiful in that particular dress" ensure your heart agrees to it. Compliments, when they spring from the fountain of heart, showers the other person with the feeling of being acknowledged and appreciated. So be genuine in complimenting. Don't be superficial. Tell her what you feel you like about her views and achievements etc. Don't hesitate in complementing, it is worst to think and not to say. Go and tell her, politely.
What About Sex
It does not require some amazing level of comprehension ability to understand that sex is not a topic to be pushed on initial dates. Why do you want to mess your beautiful date by including a topic that must stem after some comfort in your understanding levels? It radiates a negative vibe that you're not really into the girl and you are the poorest prospect for a long term relationship. Do I need to explain more? Understand friends, it's too heavy to push sex initially, so avoid it. Yeah! Avoid it.
Make Her Feel Special
This sums up all the dating rules for guys. Every effort, every gesture and steps that you've taken to impress her must be focused with the objective of making her feel special. That is the most basic desire we all have, at some point of time in our lives, to be very special for that special someone. So be original, be honest, be creative and ultimately she will understand what you wish to convey. Though still she may want you to say it, women you know, have their own logic. They need everything to be said, right into their ears. They know everything, yet they want to hear!
These were some dating rules for guys. Dating must never be made into one of the most serious tasks you're going to carry out in your life. Be responsible, be funny, say what you mean and have fun with your date. You never know in which moment love will finally sweep her off her feet. And there she'll be in your arms, for making your life a bundle of joyful memories. Then, you can hold her forever and ever, with the mystical power of love! Wish you luck!
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