Child Adoption

"I’ve grown so much but you weren’t here
To hold me console me or fight my fear
I wanted to know what was wrong with me
Where should I have grown up, where should I be
There has never been a day gone by
I don’t ask myself the question why
The constant filling of my heart with doubt
It was a secret to never be let out
Who exactly was my mother?
Then it dawned on me it could be no other,
Than the one who had loved all my life
The one who will be there through all my strife
The one who held me when I was scared
The one who I could always count on and always cared
It didn’t matter that I never came from your tummy
The point is you’re the one I will always call Mommy"-Gabe Myers

This is a poem written by a teenager who was adopted. Probably this would be the universal expression of all those children who have been adopted and who are still waiting for a parent to adopt them. Adoption is a very sensitive issue to talk about because all of us have different views about it and these views are based on facts and therefore none of them can be taken lightly. There are issues like heredity vis-à-vis growing environment that works in the attribute and characteristic formation of the child. There are many celebrities who are setting a paradigm by adopting children; even single women and men are doing it, probably to set an example for the world to follow yet there are inhibitions in the minds of people regarding child adoption.

Closer look at the Issue of Child Adoption

Let us look at it from a very spiritual as well as statistical point of view though these are very contrary terms that I am using yet there is a need to use the term "spiritual" since people consider having their own children as an act of leaving their own selves behind after their deaths. So adopting a child would be to go beyond this mindset and think about so many children who are already there in this world without parental love and guidance, which is a bit of statistics and a huge act of selflessness. If every couple for that matter if every unit of family adopts one child at least then there would be a decrease in the number of children who are to be adopted.

Now the last point that I mentioned gives rise to some other major issues like being able to be equal to both your child and the child whom you adopted. Psychology says that there always remains a fine line of difference between the adopted child and your own child. This happens probably because we do not feel that sense of bonding or belonging with this adopted child.

Whatever might be the cause there are children whom some of us brought into this world need to be taken care of and they are not the ones who should be punished because their parents acted irresponsibly, should they be?If given a thought it would be evident that if these children are adopted and are given a good environment to grow up, we would not only decrease the number of helpless and parentless children but would also contribute to the solution of some other problems like homelessness and crime. These children who are in the orphanages after some or the other point of time become rebels who have a tendency to become hard core criminals or Psychopaths even because they always go through a psychological starvation since they fail to get answers of some of their basic questions. On the contrary if we provide them a home where they can feel the warmth of care and concern, they would feel the kind of satiety and satisfaction that every human being wants to feel and which is necessary for their mental well being. It is easier said than done but if we forget about their real parents and try to give one of these children a way to survive, that would definitely give this world to be better place to live in.