Cheating Spouse Signs

Marriages are built on trust, commitment and love. If any of these things lack in a marriage, the relationship is bound to fail. When a person gets married, thoughts such as, his or her spouse will cheat on them, do not even cross the mind. So when it actually happens, it can be quite shocking and shattering for any person. But how to find out whether a spouse is cheating? How to act or confront your spouse in such a situation? Let's find out by looking at the signs and ways to gauge infidelity.

Signs of a Cheating Spouse

One of the most common signs is a sudden change in his or her behavior. If you find that you husband or wife has developed a rapid interest in a particular kind of music or that the spouse who never used to care about his clothes before suddenly starts talking about the latest fashions or styles, then beware as something fishy is brewing. These sudden changes happen as the spouse is inculcating the likings and preferences of the third person in the love triangle.

When a spouse has just began an affair outside his or her marriage, initially he will be very affectionate and extra nice towards his wife. This is because he or she feels guilty about the whole situation.

Another sign is that their usage of mobile phone as well as computer suddenly increases. This is because they are constantly communicating with the one they are cheating you on with. Also, if your spouse suddenly becomes very protective of his mobile phone or computer and does not even let you touch it, a great possibility is that he or she wants to keep his partner in crime hidden from you.

If your spouse has suddenly started working for long hours in office, or if he has to go almost every weekend to office to take care of some "work related emergency", it could be possible that he is cheating on you. Refusal to be physically close to you, avoiding sex are some of the other signs of cheating.

Look for some sure shot physical evidences of cheating such as, lipstick on his shirt, or condoms in his travel bags. For women it can be a faint smell of cologne emanating from the body. Finding bills of things or restaurants or hotels that you are not aware off, in your spouse's purse or wallet, are also signs that he/she is cheating on you.

If your spouse has suddenly started dressing provocatively, has changed her hairstyle, uses lots of perfumes or cologne while going out on an all girls or all guys night, it could be because he or she is cheating on you.

How to Deal with a Cheating Spouse

If you are thinking of confronting your spouse, then here are some useful tips on how to handle such a situation.

• Before confronting your spouse, find out the evidence which confirms that he or she is indeed cheating on you. Getting records of their cell phones and computers is a good way to find this out.
• You may hire a private detective to confirm whether your spouse is cheating on you or not.
• Once you are 100% sure that he is cheating on you, instead of making a scene about it, keep your cool. Plan everything, right from what you are going to say, how you are going to say it, on what note you would end the conversation, well in advance. This will help you to think and take action practically rather than being emotional about the whole thing.
• Ask you spouse whether he wants to remain in the marriage. Do not try to hold on to him against his or her wishes because that is going to harm you emotionally in the future.
• If your spouse, asks for forgiveness and promises to mend his ways, set clear guidelines for him about what is acceptable and what is unacceptable behavior on his part. Only if he agrees to them, take him back or he may cheat on you again and hurt you even more.
• Keep a check on your spouse for sometime, till you are sure that he has stopped seeing the other man or woman.

Coming to terms with the reality that the person you love and trust the most has let you down, can be quite unnerving for anybody. To rebuild the trust in your relationship, forgiving the other person from your heart is very essential. If you can do that, stay in the relationship, if you cannot, move out.