Characteristics of a Controlling Personality

Are you in a relationship where your partner demands all the attention? Doe he/she dictate everything you want to do or even speak for that matter? Do you feel you have loved the wrong person? And you have no individuality anymore? Well, a controlling personality is harmful in many ways and be careful...such a person can trick you with smooth talks early on. As time passes, such a personality will show all the characteristics that control a person and slowly poison your life before you even realize it. These controlling personalities become very difficult to deal with and difficult to handle as well. If you are having problems in your current relationship, you need to read about these characteristics of a controlling personality to know whether your partner does belong to this category.

Domination over every issue:
A controlling personality would love to dictate every single moment of your life, to the kind of food you eat or even what you wear. This person would hate if you take any decisions on your own. He/she would always have the first as well as the last say in all your issues. For example, he/she won't let you sleep without having a word on the phone even if you have spoken thousand times in a day. Or he/she would force you to talk on the phone even during office hours. Your partner thus tends to dominate you in every aspect of life.

Shades of green:
A controlling personality tends to be an extremely jealous person. He/she will keep asking you about the people you meet and the amount of time you spend with them. This person will also ask you the reasons for spending more than the required time with the group. In the beginning of the relationship, the person may not show this trait but as time passes, he will get jealous of your colleagues or even your best friend. He/she will dictate things about the kind of people you are supposed to meet. Signs of jealousy and the kind of conditions your partner dictates are sure signs he/she wants to control your life.

Complete control over your emotions:
A controlling personality would always want to emotionally hurt you at every moment. The moment you do something that goes out of their line of thought or action, he/she is bound to make you feel terrible about it. For example, you may not really want to have that cup of coffee in your favorite hangout because you may want to go to bed early. But a controlling personality would ensure you get out of bed to have coffee only because he/she feels like it! If you refuse, he/she would torture you endlessly about being difficult and too insensitive a person whereas in reality, your partner is the one who is at fault.

Forced Intimacy:
When your partner forces you in certain intimate acts even if you are not comfortable, you need to think about the relationship in totality. Your partner would show very little interest in your feelings; it is only about personal satisfaction. For example, your partner may force you to be loving in nature even if you are tired or make unusual demands that go against your ways of thinking.

Do you wish to be with someone like that?
Well, a controlling personality with all the temper tantrums and unreasonable demands would surely be difficult to handle. Even if you love this person, you should be aware of what you would be getting into. If you can handle such a person and pretend to be something you are not, then sure, go ahead and have a terrible time with such a person. On the other hand, if you wish to gain back your individuality, then you need to get out of this situation. Make sure he/she knows about your stand but speak in a cool manner. There is no point in losing your temper because such people can go to any extent to prove their point. You need to get your points across slowly and surely. After all, you deserve the best and no matter how much you claim to love the person, you can't really let any person dictate your life to a great extent. It is better you opt out and pack your bags to discover a whole new life where you can breathe in a free environment.

Love is definitely not about controlling someone's life to the extent of driving a person up the wall. Love is about caring and sharing and moments of joy and being together through life's ups and downs. You need to take a step back and think for yourself to choose the best. Life is all about choices we make and to have a happy life, you need to choose the right path. Do not worry about not meeting the right person...the best is yet to come!