Character Changes and Quotes About It

To give an accurate picture, I will start citing the autobiography in five short chapters written by Portia Nelson:

I
"I walk, down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in
I am lost.... I am helpless
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

II
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again
I can't believe I am in the same place but, it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

III
I walk down the same street
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it there.
I still fall in.... it's a habit, my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

IV
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

V
I walk down another street. "

The immaturity in character can be best seen in a child. Children judge the world trough their young minds and their limited perspective. Something very real to notice is that if we go to the doctor, we’ll usually be asked about the health issues of our forefathers in an attempt to guide the doctor to the best version of the diagnostic. The same way, the spiritual inheritance of the family has an important influence over the children. Take a look and see the problems that occur in a child’s life that has been raised by abusive parents: fear, lack of trust in himself or others and what’s worse, the deep and unhealed wounds of rejection are still there causing pain. This pain caused by rejection might have been felt by the child even before he was born (if he/she was not a wanted child, or if the parents wanted a child of the opposite sex) and it adds up during a painful childhood; if no one diagnoses this pain, the individual is doomed to live all his/her life without even realizing why is it that he/she cannot make friends, cannot be sociable, cannot approach the world in a positive manner.

Getting to the bottom of things is often a sinuous path and a process but it is worth the effort. Only God can bring real healing in a heart and can indeed restore the feelings that have been so hurt and scattered throughout years of abuse, but there is real healing and change!
You have to get to the bottom of things, to see where the real problem lays, the source of it and then, with love and support from a good counselor that really knows God, everyone can receive healing.

Just as an example, Joyce Meyer, a woman who was sexually abused by her father for 15 years has indeed lived a nightmare yet, God brought healing to her heart, she is happily married and serves God with joy in her heart. Yes, feelings’ healing is achievable, even if you have never met your parents because they abandoned you in an orphanage, know for a fact that you are not a mistake; God was not taken by surprise with your coming into this world, on the contrary! He has a plan for your life and enough love to last you a lifetime! Yes all inner wounds can be healed if you ask God to do it.

Titanic was a great movie and if you have seen it you surely remember the scene where the glamorous ship sank and all the people were desperate to get into a lifeboat. The freezing water of the ocean caused many to die immediately; now imagine the following scene: a man in that cold water sees you approaching with a boat. Your intention is to take him in, to save his life but he says "All I want is a coke, give me a coke!" Well, of course he’ll have plenty of time to drink as many cokes as he likes IF you first save his life and take him into the boat.
It is the same with us, we ask God to heal our wounds but we somehow fail to see the deadly and poisonous ocean of sin threatening our lives. Jesus Christ wants to save our lives and once we are saved, He can start the restoration process we all need.
So don’t only ask God for a coke when He wants to give you infinitely more than that! Get to know Jesus Christ, see for yourself if He is true and after you have met Him, He will deliver you from your inner or other kinds of pain you might have suffered. Take a Bible, read it, start with the New Testament, don’t live a defeated life when you can have your life filled with Heaven’s joy! Come to Jesus Christ, God’s Son today!