Causes of Divorce and Divorce Advice

Divorce is when the husband and the wife decide to opt out of the marriage and need a legal sanction for it. I would say that it is the legal term for the separation that happens at quite an earlier stage. Yes legally it can only happen before the "death of any of them". Rates of divorce have increased manifold with women empowerment since they are now getting better and higher education and consequently higher salaries. No please do not think that I am against woman’s liberation, in fact I personally feel that the compatibility of two people should only be checked and should be considered valid when they are standing on the same ground.

One should not be on lower plane because that brings a kind of submission and humility without any conscious effort. Our grandmothers actually tolerated all kinds of temper tantrums because they could not find any other way to survive; in fact when I say, "survive", I mean exactly that since the socio-cultural circumstances were against women’s education and women working, though all of it is determined by the culture you belong to. Europeans do not really bother much about the social taboos but the Asian mindset still treats the divorcees as social outcasts. It is considered a sacrilege of the sacred institution of marriage.

Now I know this might sound controversial but I have a slightly different opinion regarding divorces that happen now, in the present times when the woman has all the independence and all the liberties to choose the man she wants to get married and men always had that privilege, still people fall in love, live in for some time, get married and then file for divorce. Now how does that make sense? No not the divorce the marriage at the first place. Wouldn’t you call it lack of "understanding" and then lack of "patience"? No, I just can’t defend my generation when it comes to this. We claim to be much more matured and practical than our forefathers then how can we indulge in such unwise and time consuming activities.

Causes of Divorce

Let us talk some facts here now. Some of the primary causes of divorce are as follows:

• Workaholism- this is the reason, which leads to around 6% of divorces.
• Family Strains-This leads to around 18% of all the divorces.
• Abuse (Physical or emotional)-This leads to 17% of divorces.
• Extramarital Affairs- Now this is interesting, this reason leads to approximately 27% of divorces.
• Addiction to alcohol and drugs- This leads to approximately 13% of all the divorces.
• Mid-life Crisis-This leads to 13% of all the divorces.

So now it is evident that the reason that leads to the maximum number of divorces is disloyalty. Isn’t that actually sacrilege? If we live in a society and call ourselves civilized, why not behave like civilized people. Civilization teaches us to be restricted, and some restrictions are required. You can let your "Id" take over on you. It makes no sense that you lived with somebody for ten or fifteen years and since you do not like being with him or her anymore you want to leave him. One day this way we would like to have free society and free world where power would rule and not wisdom. Children out of these broken marriages would not have a healthy psychological childhood and that would lead to severe adjustment problems in youngsters. They would fail to do anything positive and you can’t blame them because you did not give them a healthy environment to grow. They lived in emotional strife and strife is what they can create. Do you still want the societal system to crash and collapse?