Bride and Groom Speeches - Which Speech Follows Which?

At the wedding reception it is usually falls to the father of the bride to start off the round of wedding speeches. His speech mainly concentrates on his daughter, the bride, after all the groom gets his spot in the limelight when the best man talks about him during his speech.

The father of the bride then hands over to the groom who then more often than not makes a speech on behalf of the bride and himself, starting it with ‘My Wife and I’. This, which normally produces a chuckle and gets the guests into the right frame of mind to receive the rest of his speech.

Nowadays more and more brides are opting to make their own speech, and if this is decided upon then her speech should follow on from the groom’s. If the maid of honor is making a speech then her should come next, followed by the bridesmaid’s speech if there is to be one. The honor of making the last speech falls to the best man.

If neither the bride, the maid of honor, nor the bridesmaids intend to make speeches, then the groom should hand over directly to the best man, and stand by to be suitably embarrassed!

Wedding audiences, consisting of such a diverse group of people, are considered by even the most professional of speech writers to be notoriously difficult to write for. The speech content must be suitable for all ages, genders, and religious beliefs, and must not alienate or offend anyone. However, playing too safe can lead to a boring and cliché riddled speech.

The groom’s speech needs to be both functional and sincere, but at the same time it needs to be sprinkled with the appropriate amount of humor. It needs to thank all those that need to be thanked without it sounding like the reading of a shopping list. The ideal balance is extremely difficult to get just right.

Before my own wedding I had the pleasure of attending the weddings of a number of friends and relatives. I had heard some really quite good groom’s speeches, and others which are probably best forgotten. One in particular was so bad that people were leaving the room to avoid laughing, in places they shouldn’t have been. Now that really was embarrassing, for the bride and groom, for the parents, and for some of the other guests.

I was determined that there was absolutely no way that my wedding speech would be anything like that, so I began researching for my speech content by scouring the internet for suitable examples that I could learn from. However I very soon found out that the vast majority of stuff freely available on the internet is absolute rubbish. Perhaps that is why it is freely available? There was no way I was going to use any of that in my speech.

The internet did serve a purpose though, as it allowed me to discover a few books that were written by professional speech writers. At last I was heartened to find that there were some good quality speech examples out there. The quality was better, and as they were written by the same person they flowed a lot better. In addition there were some really great ideas that I wouldn’t have even thought of.

Not only that, but some of the books contained really useful tips on how to personalize my speech and how to deliver it to achieve maximum impact and to create a lasting impression. I ended up with a speech I was proud of, and which I felt comfortable enough with to deliver with confidence.

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