Break Up Pain - The Importance of the Cool Down Period

If you've just broken up you've probably been thinking this already. I need to call them. I'll just leave another text message. This time she'll return my messages! You miss them. You miss them so bad it hurts. You want to make it right, and you want to make it right NOW.

Should you? It is recommended you not contact your ex for at least one month after breaking up. Why is this? What do you do during that time? They're always on your mind and you want to do everything to have them by your side again, but were the terms you broke up on good terms?

After breaking up you both need some time to yourselves to think. Give some real thought to evaluate the relationship and try to pinpoint the moment it all went wrong. Get a clear idea of the problem that caused this to not work out. A lot of self reflection is necessary to see if you can fix the problem you discover as well as find yourself again as a separate individual from your ex.

You're probably replaying the events over and over again already wondering what happened. Really look for some finer details if nothing automatically jumps out at you. Try and see the more subtle reasoning it all came to a blow out over what seemed to be such a small thing. This is an important step and takes some time. During this time it's best to not have contact with your ex and refrain from constantly send them "take me back" messages or other such nonsense. You are also trying to find the person they fell in love with so you can be that person again.

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