Body Language: Love Signals

I was given this project as a part of my psychology major where I had to study human behavior in a controlled environment. I remember sitting at a cafe that afternoon when the project was announced and mulling over what I'd take up. As I sipped my already tepid coffee, I noticed this really fidgety guy across the table. He would just not settle down. He was restless, and frankly, a little annoying 'coz of that. He kept shaking his legs and playing with his hair and his fork sure did fall down an awful lot, which he then promptly got up to retrieve. I would've just shifted places, but then I saw that his gaze was fixed at something in between the times he carried on with all these (planned) shenanigans. And that something was a girl. A girl who sat with a group not far away and looked in his direction every time the fork clinked onto the floor, then stared at him for a second more than was necessary and went back to what she was doing.

It was pretty obvious the game they were playing, even though it wasn't to them. They were displaying the not-so-subtle forms of body language: love signals! Anyone who looked at them carefully would have been able to decipher that he was attracted to her and was acting that way and displaying rather unconsciously the body language of someone in love or like. And she, with the staring back was getting there as well. You see, love has its own body language, and no matter how clueless you think the other person is about what you're feeling, it is possible to get the body language attraction signs from the way they act, behave and the unconscious signs that they display. So what you're trying to hide, can never really be hidden if the body language: love signals are duly studied!

That's what my project was based on by the way, the body language: love signals and what they mean. The observations of the experiments I carried out are explained below in a format that has been made interesting and easy to understand. So if you're confused about whether he/she likes you, just read up on the following pointers about body language signs he is in love or she is in love.

Body Language of a Man in Love

Here are some of the signs, gestures, facial expressions and overall body language of a man in love:

• Catching her gaze, holding onto it and then maintaining prolonged eye contact.
• When a guy is in love and in the company of his lady love, his eyebrows will be raised when he first notices her and continue to remain slightly raised throughout the time that he's with her.
• His nostrils will be slightly flared at the sight of his love interest.
• His demeanor will be a pleasant one, always smiling and cheerful. His eyes will light up and his cheeks will flush. This is done to put her at ease.
• His lips will become slightly flushed as well and take on a red tinge. If he touches his lips or runs his tongue over them often, that is just an unconscious sign of what he wants her to do with them (I did not make this one up, I swear. There are studies done.)
• His whole manner will be that of interest. He will hold on to every word she says. His shoulders, knees and toes will all be pointed towards her.
• The minute he sees her, he will soothe his clothes and hair. This is done to look neat and clean.
• He will make use of his masculinity to attract her. This will be done by standing taller, pointing out the chest and pulling in the stomach. Other signs of attraction from men will include placing the hands on the hips or tucking them in the pockets. This is also done to look taller and steadier.
• He will be in her periphery of vision at all times. Constantly hovering around her and making sure to do things to get her attention.
• He will want to eliminate all the possible barriers that come between him and her. This could be as simple as moving a chair or a glass away or even as distinct as backing some other guy and standing between the girl and him.
• He will sit with his legs apart or fix his fingers into the pockets to better show his manliness. It's an innate need of showing that he's well endowed so that women choose him.
• He will use several small and non aggressive ways of touching the girl. Like holding her arm or guiding her through a crowd by holding the small of her back, touching her knees with his or sitting closer than usual.

Body Language of a Woman in Love

The thing with women is that they have the flirting skills that men may not have, therefore to understand the body language signals of a woman in love are relatively easier. This is what you should look out for in women body language :

• Her pupils will dilate when she sees him. She will try and maintain prolonged eye contact as well.
• She leans in closer to the man as he talks. This is to show that she's interested in listening to what he's saying.
• In an effort to subconsciously show the curve of her body off, she may lean against an object. And she might even adopt a flirting body language.
• Her lips will become slightly flushed. She might pout them, touch them or lick them. That's in an effort to get the man's attention there. If she's the bold type, the one who's absolutely comfortable in her skin, then she might even apply a coat of lipstick right in front of the guy.
• Her palms will be wide open if she's into you. Open palms means she's letting the guy in. Palms that have been turned into fists is a bad sign.
• Her facial expressions will always show her smile, her eyes will twinkle and she'll settle in for a tilted head pose. This is a sure sign of attraction.
• She keeps touching her face, neck and hair from time to time. This is a subconscious way of getting the guy's attention there.
• She smooths her hair and clothes a lot around the guy she loves. This is a way of being neat and clean so that he's not put off by her appearance.
• She will pull her hair aside and expose her neck which is to show that she is vulnerable around him and does not mind revealing it.
• All her attention will be focused on the guy. She will literally sit with her back to all to eliminate all barriers.
• She will laugh at all his jokes, even when they aren't as funny. She's just trying to boost his ego. It comes naturally to her.
• She mirrors the guy's move. Everything he does, she follows. She does not even realize she's doing it.

Body language, love signals and like aren't as difficult to observe. One just needs to keep their senses heightened and observe closely. And who knows, maybe the other person is observing your body language as well? Now there's a thought, huh?