Bipolar Booty Call?
Is being Bipolar an excuse to shirk relationship responsibilities? This guy seems to think so...I'm seeing a 39 yr old Bipolar male. In the beginning everything was great, but then it turned. He called me every day, but would only see me once a week for sex. I thought that his BP Disorder had something to do with his behavior and accepted it... His behavior has only gotten stranger as time goes on. Please help. I'm still in love with him.
The Question
I was seeing a 39 yr old Bipolar male. Until a year ago, he lived w/his mother. The only reason he moved out was because he did not get along w/his ailing step-father. His mother still handles all of his finances.
In the beginning of our relationship everything seemed nice, but then it turned. He called me every day for a while but would only see me once a week for sex. I thought that his BP Disorder had something to do with his behavior and accepted it-taking it slow.
He cancelled our plans on New Year's Eve because he partied too hard the night B4 and I did not see him on my birthday.
He told me that I am beautiful and book smart and that scares him. After not hearing from him for 3 wks, he came over at 3:45 a.m. to "talk." We did talk, but he also wanted sex, which he DID NOT get! He also shocked me by showing me that he had shaved all the hair off of his genitals and thought that was something I would like. I found it to be strange (especially since I had not heard from him in so long). Now, he calls me once in a while. Many months ago, I told him that I was in love with him and how his behavior hurts.
Can you please help me? I am still in love with him, but as of Christmas Eve, stopped telling him so.
The Answer
Sorry to say, but sounds to me like you're the proverbial "Booty Call". Don't let him use being Bipolar as an excuse to take advantage of you.
I know nothing about this medical condition and do not know if it could cause this type of behavior... Here are some resources that I found that may help you.
http://www.psychologyinfo.com/depression/bipolar.htm
http://www.bipolarworld.net/York/dating.htm
Treating your girlfriend like a "booty call" is not on the list of normally displayed symptoms.
It sounds like for whatever reason, this man is not in any emotional state to be in any kind of serious relationship - whether the cause is BP disorder or simply a severe case of immaturity.
If I were in your shoes, I would show myself the well deserved respect that this man is not showing you, and either find a better relationship or enjoy my own company for a while. You do not need another person (man or woman) to confirm your greatness!
If you love yourself first, you will attract a man that loves and treats you the way you deserve to be treated.
This may not be what you want to hear, but I hope it helps.
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I was seeing a 39 yr old Bipolar male. Until a year ago, he lived w/his mother. The only reason he moved out was because he did not get along w/his ailing step-father. His mother still handles all of his finances.
In the beginning of our relationship everything seemed nice, but then it turned. He called me every day for a while but would only see me once a week for sex. I thought that his BP Disorder had something to do with his behavior and accepted it-taking it slow.
He cancelled our plans on New Year's Eve because he partied too hard the night B4 and I did not see him on my birthday.
He told me that I am beautiful and book smart and that scares him. After not hearing from him for 3 wks, he came over at 3:45 a.m. to "talk." We did talk, but he also wanted sex, which he DID NOT get! He also shocked me by showing me that he had shaved all the hair off of his genitals and thought that was something I would like. I found it to be strange (especially since I had not heard from him in so long). Now, he calls me once in a while. Many months ago, I told him that I was in love with him and how his behavior hurts.
Can you please help me? I am still in love with him, but as of Christmas Eve, stopped telling him so.
The Answer
Sorry to say, but sounds to me like you're the proverbial "Booty Call". Don't let him use being Bipolar as an excuse to take advantage of you.
I know nothing about this medical condition and do not know if it could cause this type of behavior... Here are some resources that I found that may help you.
http://www.psychologyinfo.com/depression/bipolar.htm
http://www.bipolarworld.net/York/dating.htm
Treating your girlfriend like a "booty call" is not on the list of normally displayed symptoms.
It sounds like for whatever reason, this man is not in any emotional state to be in any kind of serious relationship - whether the cause is BP disorder or simply a severe case of immaturity.
If I were in your shoes, I would show myself the well deserved respect that this man is not showing you, and either find a better relationship or enjoy my own company for a while. You do not need another person (man or woman) to confirm your greatness!
If you love yourself first, you will attract a man that loves and treats you the way you deserve to be treated.
This may not be what you want to hear, but I hope it helps.
Wait. Get more great articles like this one at www.AskDanAndJennifer.com. Ask Dan and Jennifer your most pressing questions on Dating, Relationships, Love, and Sex, and take a sneak peak at what others are asking.
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