What's The best Gift you can give a Soulmate?

A truly great gift that you can give your soulmate is a healthy self esteem. When you are confident and at ease with who you are and where you are heading in life you have something that is more valuable than gold. Your Soulmate will really appreciate it.Nobody wants to get stuck with a 'leech', someone who can't survive for more than 10mins without your perpetual encouragement and affirmation to build their self esteem.

In my teens I'd always thought that only females suffered from self esteem issues but with more life experiences I quickly learned that guys also have the same problems they just deal with them in different ways.l

In Nathaniel Brandon’s description of self esteem he states "self-esteem as a basic human need, i.e., ‘…it makes an essential contribution to the life process’, "…is indispensable to normal and healthy self-development, and has a value for survival." Maslow described two kinds of self esteem needs, the "need for respect from others and the need for self-respect." Without self esteem the individual feels discouraged weak and inferior. Do you have a healthy self esteem? Do you draw your self esteem from an external sources that may cause you to crumble when they do? Where do you draw your self worth from?

Self esteem is linked to our basic human need to be loved, accepted and valued. We desire to be accepted by others and to be valued for what we do and who we are. It is very dangerous when a person's self esteem primarily comes from what they do and from what people think of them. When we compare ourselves to the glam models we see in magazines or to the sporting heroes on our television sets we will never measure up to what the world seems to value and accept as popular.

Self esteem is how and what you think about yourself.

You have to realise you are valuable just as you are. Then and only then will your self esteem increase and you will become comfortable in your own skin. Building self esteem is a step towards happiness in life. The fact that we are here on earth and have been created to live a purposeful life is of value. We can't always rely on others to validate us. Sometimes we need to take responsibility for boosting our own self confidence. Self esteem increases your confidence which in turn boosts your self respect. When we respect ourselves we can respect others and improve our soulmate relationships.

Low self esteem results in depression, unhappiness, insecurity and poor confidence which all have a negative effect on the soulmate relationships in your life. When we listen to negative 'self talk' it impacts on our ability to focus on others in life and causes us to be consumed with ourselves. The two most important factors to increasing self confidence are; facing our fears and forgetting our failures. Facing our fears will increase our confidence and build our 'I can do anything' attitude to success! Failures are better forgotten than remembered. Forget the failure but don't forget the lesson you learnt. Always remember that the only people who haven't failed in life are the people sitting there doing nothing! You don't want to become one of them. If your anything like me and living life close to the edge you will have failed many times. Don't focus on these failures or get into bed with them. They are not an excuse to do nothing. Learn From Them.

Being comfortable in your own skin and having a healthy self esteem is one of the greatest gifts you can give your soulmate. If you are trying to find a soulmate being confident and comfortable with who you can only help to attract that special person into your life.

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