Benevolent Expectations Creates Better Results

Though many of you may disagree with me, I believe everyone is honestly trying to do their best at what they do whether being a parent, partner, leader, athlete or scholar. Sure, your associate’s ‘best’ may not be live up to your expectations; however, they are trying.
Everyone does his best according to his level of understanding about what ‘best’ is.

Oftentimes, they need a guiding hand, thought or voice, especially when we feel that they’ve strayed to the point where they’ve actually disappointed or irritated us. We may feel that there is no hope for this relationship and be ready to cast it aside.

Norman Vincent Peale puts it this way in The Power Principle Today:

"I discovered early in my own personal experience that the simple practice of outgoing love toward people is magically effective. Whenever I detect that my thoughts are going stale, I deliberately search for some opportunity to express love by a thoughtful and kindly act, and if I do enough of this, a new vigor, even fervor, shows in my mental state.

A revitalized feeling of aliveness and sensitivity becomes evident. To me, this practice is of tremendous importance. This infusion of caring thoughts followed by caring action has the effect of washing out of mind the accumulation of old, tired, gloomy thoughts which constantly recur unless arrested by some stronger mental force."

Relationships are fragile yet so important to our joy in work and play. Far too often, I learn of one destroyed by an incident that happened months, even years ago. In order to be the best that you can be, I say to this to you with all due respect:

Let go of the negative, pessimistic, damaging energy. Move on with benevolence.

Look for ways to offer goodwill. The results may not come today or tomorrow; in fact, the recipient may even be suspicious of your actions. However, even suspicion and doubt will raise your level of communication from where it was yesterday. Look for ways to connect with this person. What surprising core values or mutual experiences might you share?

What value would a beverage or meal away from the hustle bustle bring? There is likely depth to this person that you’re expectations has not yet allowed to manifest. Give them the benefit of your doubt. See how this benevolence results in positive ripple effects throughout other areas of your life. Enjoy your discoveries, express more love, and have a great week.