Attract Men

What does it take to attract men? At www.gettheguy.co.uk we have our own ideas about what works. The answer really depends on another question: What are you looking for? Let’s face it, to attract a man don a skirt the size of a spaghetti string and push enough of your God-given assets out for the world to see and chances are you’ll have plenty of companionship to see you through an evening or two. You’ll get attraction. You’ll attract men. But here’s the catch, you’ll attract ATTENTION; you won’t attract men, at least not those you’re looking for. If this is what you’re after, then read no further. Perhaps your breasts have simply been lacking in good conversation lately, and a night of slurring uninspired come-ons sounds like just the ticket to get you out of your dating rut. If so then please, with gusto, proceed to close your laptop, step out to Chinawhites and enjoy the onslaught.

If you’re still reading, congratulations!

To attract men is not a one-night game. It’s a skill and a mind-set, and like any skill you cultivate, its benefits will remain long after one evening. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with going out to attract men at a nightclub. But what about the next morning? What about at the coffee shop, the gym, the spa, the deli, the dinner party, the wedding, or (dare I say it) the office? These situations won’t be conquered by a trip to Selfridges. Women of true beauty (which all men know goes far beyond physical appearances) are chameleons that can thrive and adapt and attract men wherever you place them, in all situations.

How do they do it? They radiate happiness. If there’s one thing attractive women have in common, it’s an ability to absolutely glow with positive energy. It beams from them, and men and women alike queue up to bask in its warmth. They can sense it. But what about those beautiful aloof women, the statuesque goddesses with the steely glare from the corner of the bar? You know the kind, the icy princess that looks she eats red-blooded males for breakfast? Well, the truth is this does not attract men. There’s only one thing these women attract: Loneliness. As soon as men realise these "goddesses" are devoid of any sense of joy and playfulness, they give up. It’s just not worth the effort. Men are simple. They don’t want to spend 3 hours trying to relentlessly crack a woman’s icy armour. These women are lonely because men give up on them....fast. A man is willing to take a challenge, but not a miserable one. Would you walk into a job interview or a company meeting with your aloof and disinterested face on? No? Then what makes you think it will work here?

Jaded women bring a man’s (and everyone else’s) mood down. Men are attracted to playfulness and passion, and delivered in the right way they are infectious. You see these women all the time, you can’t miss them. You want to be around them, they are artists that can paint a smile on a crowds face. NEVER underestimate the power of a smile! As a woman a relaxed, confident smile is your single most powerful trait. As soon as you smile, you’re somebody, you’re approachable. Men can be frightened and insecure enough when it comes to approaching women, so do you really think you need to look less approachable?

Your smile and positivity communicate something VERY IMPORTANT which is this: You’re comfortable in your own skin. No matter how beautiful, men aren’t attracted to beauty queens who have to excuse themselves every five minutes to re-apply, or hover in front of mirrors to adjust their hair, or complain about how they just MUST spend tomorrow morning and afternoon on the treadmill to work off that last bit of cellulite they acquired over dinner. These insecurities set off a recurring siren in a man’s head that screams "needy". Every man loves giving genuine compliments and telling a woman how beautiful she looks, but not as a response to the "I look so ugly tonight!" tantrum. It’s a game than men grow weary of very quickly, slowly realising that being with this woman is equivalent to having signed a 24-hour contract as her personal babysitter. You don’t have to feel like superwoman every night, nor do you have to be "switched-on" to supremely confident mode every day of the year. But if you want to attract men you may need to learn to leave your personal hang-ups at the door.

If you’re having trouble, remember the rule: Shyness is sweet, insecurity is tiresome.

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See you soon!

Matthew Hussey – Managing Director, GettheGuy