Asking a Girl Out

It happens to innumerable guys in the big wide world. You spot a pretty damsel sitting at the corner table in a coffee shop, and you naturally want to ask her out. But you don't. Rather, you can't. Not because you're unsure of her single status, but because you don't know how to go about it. Well, here's my suggestion. Concentrate hard while reading through the rest of this short article. By the end of it, you'll surely be a step or two closer to asking a girl out!

How to ask a Girl Out:

In College
Well, guys, it's time to step away from the pack of silent admirers, and step up to actually asking out the one you admire. The key is to build up confidence. However, please do not go overboard with this, as overconfidence will only relegate you back to 'single-hood' (or even worse, embarrassment). Be cool, calm and composed. Some guys prefer to rehearse their typical lines a few times in order to build up confidence. Basically, do what suits you the best. Walk up to her in a casual manner. No shivering, tripping, running or anything similar. If the two of you haven't met in person anytime earlier, then starting a conversation is the first thing to do. Engage in a few minutes of regular chit-chat. Ask questions, and get to know her a little bit. Once you feel the conversation is moving forward smoothly enough, you could casually slip in a question and ask her what she's doing over the weekend, or whether she's interested in catching the new James Bond flick, etc.

At Work
Personally, I wouldn't encourage you to get involved in dating someone from work. In case of office romance, almost always, things tend to become complicated and it doesn't always work out well in the end. However, if you really have the hots for a chick in your office, and you're hellbent on asking her out, you might want to consider the pros and cons of getting into a relationship with your colleague before making a move, as the results can be a little different from what we think.

Over the Phone
Now this is a sort of 'backup' option that many guys resort to, if they can't muster the courage to ask a girl out in person. Sure, the phone is a wonderful human invention and an extremely resourceful medium of building familiarity with a girl. If the two of you happen to be classmates at school, college, art class, music class, or any other class or tuition, then you would, in all probability, be having a little bit of acquaintance with her. In that case, you can call her up and simply use the subject of your class or tuition to initiate a conversation. Later, at a suitable point in your conversation, you can casually drop the question. Once again, it doesn't necessarily have to be a formal first date or something similar. Since the two of you are taking a class together, you could simply ask her if she would be kind enough to come over and help you out with an assignment/homework or something similar. If there's a class project involved, then maybe a research visit to the nearby library could become a valid reason (read: good excuse).

Over a Text Message
For those of you who really can't muster any courage at all, this is a backup option to the above backup option. Now, I won't give you any ideas regarding this method, simply because I myself don't advocate it. And I'm quite sure that quite a few girls and ladies out there would share my opinion as well. Asking a girl out over a text message portrays you as not having the courage to do it in person (or over the phone). It comes across as somewhat lame, and is generally not very well accepted by the female community.

Well, if at the end of this article, the terror you experience at the thought of asking her out has subsided to some extent, my job here is done. All the best!