Ask a Girl to Prom

When the teacher announced the date for the annual prom, your eyes probably flicked towards the girl your eyes have been flicking towards, quite often, lately. You do not always need a reason to eye that very cute girl in your class, but right now you got one. The prom night has been announced and it is the ideal time to go and talk to the girl. All this time you haven't been sure what to say to that girl, but now you have a topic; the annual prom. And if she's really pretty, you'd better be quick before someone asks her first!

Asking Someone to the Prom

The prom has given you the perfect excuse to go up to that girl and talk. The problem is, how? You've never spoken to that girl. You're not sure if she knows you even exist! You're not sure if she's already out with someone else. Basically, you have a lot to do and very little time! So here are some of the basic, quick steps and creative ideas to do it right.

Step #1: Get to Know Her

Unless you're a Robert Pattinson or a Zac Efron (on looks, of course), the chances are quite less, that a cute girl will go to the prom with a complete stranger. But since all of us aren't that good looking, we have to introduce the girl to some of our brighter aspects. So if you get to know her, you can be funny or intelligent or you could probably sing a song if that's your talent. The key is, to introduce her to your most likable side. If you yourself do not know what is your most pleasing aspect, then ask your friends what they like most about you. A girl keeps her options open. If you're not good-looking, you're probably funny. If you're not funny, you're probably intelligent. If you're not intelligent, you're probably plain nice and charming. You can use one of these qualities to get to know her.

Step #2: Knowing If the Answer is No

As you try to get to know her, you'll slowly realize if she's really into you or not. There are some subtle hints she'll give you which mean 'buzz off'. The most obvious one, is if she doesn't entertain your interest in her. Secondly, if she keeps looking elsewhere, or doesn't pay attention, or doesn't laugh at your best joke, she's probably going to say no. She probably thinks you're wasting yours and her time, she probably wants to ask someone else out herself. If she has a boyfriend, she'll probably see right through you and not entertain you at all! So you need to know when to back out and not make a fool of yourself by asking her out. Sure, you like her a lot, but when a girl wants to say no, her body language says it before her mouth.

Step #3: When the Answer is Yes

If she gives you none of the above mentioned signs, you can heave a sigh of relief. The answer may still be no, but you can improve it with a little work. And face it, it will be difficult to coax her away from her friends, so you're just going to have to suck it up and be friends with the rest of her gang as well. This has its share of advantages. You'll be seen as someone bold and courageous and if you impress a couple of her friends, they might do you a favor (you do not ask them to, if they want to, they will) by making a favorable impression of you to her. If she smiles at you every time you see her, if she feels comfortable walking up to you and saying hello, you're doing a good job.

Step #4: The Final Step

If you're really good friends with her by now, you could probably suggest the idea up front. Be casual. Do not make it look like you're really into her or you're looking forward to dating or a long term relationship or something. No roses, you going down on knees, no dramatics, whatsoever. Just make it a point to look your best that day. Comb your hair, deodorant, clean clothes, be presentable. Simply toss the idea in the middle of a conversation. It might be a good idea to inquire if she already has a date for the prom and then ask her. If you want creative ideas, you could probably sneak a letter into her locker. A simple poem, about how you think she's really sweet and stuff. Just slip it into her locker, or into her bag. If you're really confident that she really likes you, then you could get a little cheeky and make her search for you. Write an anonymous letter and keep slipping her the clues. But only if you know that she does. Because if she doesn't, she probably won't give a hoot.

Step #5: The Face-off

The final confrontation is quite unavoidable. If the girl wants to say yes, she will come and ask you to explain the poem or whatever else you have slipped into her locker. Be prepared, because if you're not, you'll only stammer and look really silly. Make up a speech if you think you need to, but be prepared with something sweet and effective. She's on the fence, it's your job to push her into your yard and not out on the road. And you can only do that by being sweet and smart at the same time.

So these were the basic steps you need to take when you ask a girl to the prom. It pays to never be optimistic that she'll say yes, so have a back-up plan ready if her answer is no. If she comes to you and says no, make sure you can do something to save face. Be prepared for that eventuality too. You don't want to end up crying in front of her!